What about Rensi going to the center
Publish: 2021-05-12 23:02:34
1. The secret of getting along with all kinds of people -- a master key
2. Of course, there won't be any reaction, because she is introverted. No matter she is angry, happy or shy, she will put it in her heart and won't express it. Extroverts will immediately express it in language, while introverts will only put it in their heart. In fact, you will be very tired when you are with introverts, because you don't know what they think. If you don't want to be an extrovert, you can't say what they think, It's easier to see the character, but the country is easy to change, the temperament is hard to change, if it's not a big change, it won't change easily, for reference only
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1. Try to forget each other
if you think missing is a kind of pain, I think you can try to forget each other, because you have no choice but to forget each other
2. Start over in another place
maybe you can start over in a different place and in a different mood, because different environments can change your mood and you will encounter different things in different places
Maybe your thinking mode is too specific. If you go on like this, you will only hurt yourself, so you must change your horizontal thinking mode4. If a person's thinking has problems, it's better to stay away from it. If he has problems in thinking, he needs to adjust it. If he has problems in thinking, he needs to practice more and sum up more experience in life. If he reads more books, he can adjust this state
5. In the workplace, how to overcome the shortcomings of being self-centered
method 1: overcome the "exclusive thinking" in our heart, truly accept each other from the heart, and realize the "Ode to happiness" in the workplace
many times, the reason why we are self-centered is that we can't accept others from the heart, and subconsciously think that others are our competitors, They compete with us for fame and money
in psychology, the idea of default regarding others as competitors is called "exclusive thinking"<
the so-called "exclusion" refers to a kind of thinking habit inherited from the ancestors of apes, that is, people other than themselves are unconsciously regarded as their food Snatchers and competitors, they are classified as "different" or "other", and they take various ways to compete with them, which is more obvious between the same sex
in the workplace, when we work in the same unit, we will naturally regard others other than ourselves as our competitors and "exclude others" from the bottom of our heart. Our external performance is self-centered and can't cooperate well
in Ode to joy, five girls from different families and with different personalities live on the 22nd floor of Ode to joy community. Their stories from strangeness to familiarity to mutual understanding, mutual help and common growth are the true portrayal of overcoming "exclusive thinking" in the workplace and truly accepting each other from the heart
therefore, in the workplace, no matter how many different positions, backgrounds or even competitive relationships we have with each other, we must truly accept each other from the bottom of our hearts, overcome our self-centered defects, establish a win-win cooperation relationship, realize the harmonious coexistence of the office, and truly realize the happiness of the workplace< The second method is to change our thinking mode, raise our personal perspective to "meta perspective", and think about problems from a higher perspective.
the reason why we fall into the self-centered situation is not our own initiative, but a process of not knowing ourselves caused by a long way of thinking, If we want to overcome the self-centered problem, the first thing we need to do is to change our thinking mode from low perspective thinking to higher dimension thinking<
in his book high dimensional thinking, the Japanese management scientist xiweigu first put forward the concept of "meta thinking". The so-called "meta thinking" refers to jumping out of the limitations of self thinking and cognition and objectively looking at things around us from a higher point of view
for example, people often say that "we must look at ourselves objectively from another perspective"
this way of re examining oneself from the perspective of bystanders is also a form of meta thinking. Meta thinking can help us broaden our horizons, improve our insight, better and more objectively understand our own personality characteristics, and then overcome the limitations of self-centered to a certain extent
when using meta thinking to think about problems, we should pay special attention to two aspects:
① using why thinking mode to find the upper purpose of thinking
using why thinking means jumping out of the problem itself to see the problem. For example, if you disagree with your colleagues on a matter, you are very angry and want to quarrel, You must calm down, jump out of the event itself, and think about why this happens, why he has this idea, why he has the idea of quarreling...
② use the analogy model to find the common ground of events
the analogy model is actually an experimental structure, It is a method to infer the essence of higher dimension problems by using surface phenomena Almost all the reasoning in Detective Conan is based on the reasonable sublimation of appearance, which is a way of thinking from concrete to abstract and then to see the essence of the problem
in the workplace, we can effectively overcome the limitations caused by our thinking inertia by using meta thinking, and think about problems from a deeper level, so as to avoid the behavior self caused by the blind spot of thinking
method 3: use the principle of empathy, give up the rigid posture of being superior, really think from the perspective of the other party, and increase others' sense of identity with you
many times, as leaders, in order to show their authority, they like to "hold", that is, they deliberately do not communicate with their subordinates, It is easy to make the mistake is divorced from reality, superior, more headstrong, subordinates dare not put forward opinions, the decision can not really fit the reality
at this time, as leaders, what we need to do is to have empathy, increase the subordinate's sense of identity with you, make everyone willing to give you opinions, and then rece your self arbitrariness in making decisions
empathy is a key factor in interpersonal communication. 360 degree perfect person without dead angle does not seem to have empathy, and it is easy to fall into self thinking errors
they are aloof from the masses and others are not willing to communicate with them. Over time, on the one hand, perfect people are put on the altar, labeled as "goddess" or "male god", on the other hand, they are actually marginalized
if you think about those lovely women and men, who have no flaws? Like Lei Jun, Liu Bang, and trump, Lin Huiyin's bad temper, Lin Zhiling's baby voice, and Yang Mi's self blackening physique have narrowed the distance between himself and the public, intentionally or unintentionally breaking the obstacle of perfect aura.
method 1: overcome the "exclusive thinking" in our heart, truly accept each other from the heart, and realize the "Ode to happiness" in the workplace
many times, the reason why we are self-centered is that we can't accept others from the heart, and subconsciously think that others are our competitors, They compete with us for fame and money
in psychology, the idea of default regarding others as competitors is called "exclusive thinking"<
the so-called "exclusion" refers to a kind of thinking habit inherited from the ancestors of apes, that is, people other than themselves are unconsciously regarded as their food Snatchers and competitors, they are classified as "different" or "other", and they take various ways to compete with them, which is more obvious between the same sex
in the workplace, when we work in the same unit, we will naturally regard others other than ourselves as our competitors and "exclude others" from the bottom of our heart. Our external performance is self-centered and can't cooperate well
in Ode to joy, five girls from different families and with different personalities live on the 22nd floor of Ode to joy community. Their stories from strangeness to familiarity to mutual understanding, mutual help and common growth are the true portrayal of overcoming "exclusive thinking" in the workplace and truly accepting each other from the heart
therefore, in the workplace, no matter how many different positions, backgrounds or even competitive relationships we have with each other, we must truly accept each other from the bottom of our hearts, overcome our self-centered defects, establish a win-win cooperation relationship, realize the harmonious coexistence of the office, and truly realize the happiness of the workplace< The second method is to change our thinking mode, raise our personal perspective to "meta perspective", and think about problems from a higher perspective.
the reason why we fall into the self-centered situation is not our own initiative, but a process of not knowing ourselves caused by a long way of thinking, If we want to overcome the self-centered problem, the first thing we need to do is to change our thinking mode from low perspective thinking to higher dimension thinking<
in his book high dimensional thinking, the Japanese management scientist xiweigu first put forward the concept of "meta thinking". The so-called "meta thinking" refers to jumping out of the limitations of self thinking and cognition and objectively looking at things around us from a higher point of view
for example, people often say that "we must look at ourselves objectively from another perspective"
this way of re examining oneself from the perspective of bystanders is also a form of meta thinking. Meta thinking can help us broaden our horizons, improve our insight, better and more objectively understand our own personality characteristics, and then overcome the limitations of self-centered to a certain extent
when using meta thinking to think about problems, we should pay special attention to two aspects:
① using why thinking mode to find the upper purpose of thinking
using why thinking means jumping out of the problem itself to see the problem. For example, if you disagree with your colleagues on a matter, you are very angry and want to quarrel, You must calm down, jump out of the event itself, and think about why this happens, why he has this idea, why he has the idea of quarreling...
② use the analogy model to find the common ground of events
the analogy model is actually an experimental structure, It is a method to infer the essence of higher dimension problems by using surface phenomena Almost all the reasoning in Detective Conan is based on the reasonable sublimation of appearance, which is a way of thinking from concrete to abstract and then to see the essence of the problem
in the workplace, we can effectively overcome the limitations caused by our thinking inertia by using meta thinking, and think about problems from a deeper level, so as to avoid the behavior self caused by the blind spot of thinking
method 3: use the principle of empathy, give up the rigid posture of being superior, really think from the perspective of the other party, and increase others' sense of identity with you
many times, as leaders, in order to show their authority, they like to "hold", that is, they deliberately do not communicate with their subordinates, It is easy to make the mistake is divorced from reality, superior, more headstrong, subordinates dare not put forward opinions, the decision can not really fit the reality
at this time, as leaders, what we need to do is to have empathy, increase the subordinate's sense of identity with you, make everyone willing to give you opinions, and then rece your self arbitrariness in making decisions
empathy is a key factor in interpersonal communication. 360 degree perfect person without dead angle does not seem to have empathy, and it is easy to fall into self thinking errors
they are aloof from the masses and others are not willing to communicate with them. Over time, on the one hand, perfect people are put on the altar, labeled as "goddess" or "male god", on the other hand, they are actually marginalized
if you think about those lovely women and men, who have no flaws? Like Lei Jun, Liu Bang, and trump, Lin Huiyin's bad temper, Lin Zhiling's baby voice, and Yang Mi's self blackening physique have narrowed the distance between himself and the public, intentionally or unintentionally breaking the obstacle of perfect aura.
6. 1. The association tries. People who often debate what people think they will say, and then you think about how they should answer or refute.
2. A lot of communication, language communication, in order to promote thinking to stay active, and on the other hand, know more about news and information, broaden their knowledge, promote the understanding of all aspects of brain thinking
2. A lot of communication, language communication, in order to promote thinking to stay active, and on the other hand, know more about news and information, broaden their knowledge, promote the understanding of all aspects of brain thinking
7. Now that you have realized this, it means that you can get out of the dead end. You can't rely on others to come out. That way you'll end up in a dead end. It's a very simple thing to believe in yourself once and drag yourself out
8. You can only think about it
or you can enrich your time and make yourself busy
if it's now, count sheep, one sheep, two sheep, and count them all the time
because at present, your missing should be more about desire
or you can enrich your time and make yourself busy
if it's now, count sheep, one sheep, two sheep, and count them all the time
because at present, your missing should be more about desire
9. If you can't change it, it means that you haven't met the person who can really tie you up, or that you're not fully ready to bear the responsibility of a family. If you are over 25 years old, I advise you to stop worrying, and really think about what your partner is like and what you plan for the future.
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