How to discover others in decentralized social interaction

1. Go post it,
no one knows who you are,
there is only one network ID.

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In today's complex society, the relationship between people is particularly important. When many people encounter problems, because they have better resources and more friends, it is much more convenient to do things. So a person who knows how to socialize is also a very self disciplined person

especially for successful entrepreneurs, social interaction is one of their most common means. You can see that they have a wide range of contacts in all walks of life. These resources are also resources for mutual cooperation. It is conceivable that social interaction occupies a large part in people's life< many people may ask, how can we socialize effectively

when dealing with strangers, how to let others remember their ability and appearance in a short time? At this time, we can do is to take the initiative to attack, take the initiative to fight for, know how to pay. When your efforts are recognized by others, you build a sense of social trust. Others have confidence in you

of course, we also need to make some trade-offs. The trade-off here refers to those who have a bad heart. So if you want to socialize effectively, you not only need to pay yourself, but also know how to distinguish good from bad at the critical moment

3. As for the way of interpersonal communication, it really makes some people crazy. Being too straightforward may offend others, and being too obedient may make them in trouble. Which of us has no desire to please others? Who won't be hurt by rejection? This is the helplessness when people grow up, and it is also what people need to become social people.

4. There is a saying called & quot; What they like & quot; Find the topic he is interested in
the main thing is that you should be sincere and generous, smile and don't laugh, otherwise others will think you are very frivolous, don't always talk about yourself. You can't exaggerate and listen to your speech. It's also very important to give others a chance to speak, because everyone wants to express themselves. In short, you should think more from the position of the other party problem

5. 1. "Having one to say one" is different from "being self righteous". Don't treat rudeness as reality. When you get along with others, you should follow one basic principle: don't do to others what you don't want. You can sincerely describe your feelings on the premise that you are not aggressive. As for the evaluation and judgment of others, you need to be cautious and respectful. Many young people mistakenly regard prudence and respect as hypocrisy, and regard rudeness and narrow mindedness as real temperament. They do not know that sharp words have unintentionally hurt each other. So before you speak, please stand in the other side's position and think about it. Mature people will feel comfortable with what they say

2. Use your body language well
in different situations, body language has completely different meanings. Be able to change your nonverbal communication skills in a timely manner. Eye contact is one of the most important ways. Sometimes in extremely sensitive occasions, you can also choose to sit side by side, which can avoid the pressure caused by eye contact and make the other person feel comfortable<

3. Try not to use negative words
constantly using negative words often gives people a sense of command or criticism. Although it clearly explains your point of view, it is more difficult to accept. A lot of questions can be expressed with positive words. Use positive words not only to make others like you, but also to adjust your view of life. Next time, try to replace "I don't agree with you" with "I hope you reconsider the idea."

4. Listen and give appropriate feedback
when talking with people, listen attentively and actively to each other's conversation, and give appropriate feedback and questions from time to time. Listening shows respect, understanding and acceptance, which is the bridge of spiritual communication. Listening is also reflected in not interrupting others' conversation at will, and politely changing the topic or ending the topic when others talk aimlessly. Even if there are differences of opinion, don't rush to refute, give each other a chance to think calmly, and then clarify their own ideas clearly

5. Get rid of the disgusting phrases
everyone has a habit of using them, but some unconscious phrases can easily cause others' disgust. We must put an end to abusive language. Some phrases such as "true or false", "impossible", "do you understand", "casual" and so on should not always be mentioned. It is said that "ha ha" should also be avoided as far as possible in online chat...

6. Don't stink at your praise
Carnegie once said, "if you want to change people without offending or causing disgust, please praise their smallest progress and praise every progress." This is the power of praise. Praise is from the heart, not hypocritical, only sincere can move people. It's not hypocrisy and cajoling to say more praise and praise. Happy praise may be the best gift for the other party. In addition, specific praise seems to be more popular with women than empty and abstract praise.

6. When rejecting others, the reason must be sufficient, do not be seen flaws. Don't dodge your eyes. Look directly at others. As far as possible to say sorry some, also can reveal the meaning of sorry in the language. That's it.

7. Hello! In my opinion, social barriers are generally caused by psychological reasons, such as inferiority, shyness, fear, and being at a loss when getting along with others. First of all, you should learn how to get along with others peacefully and talk freely. You should not always keep silent, and you should not be afraid of saying wrong things or embarrassment. Second, you should not care too much about other people's eyes and opinions, Don't take others as the center of everything. Learn to believe in yourself. Self confidence is very important in social communication. Dare to admit your mistakes and make up for your shortcomings. In fact, compared with China, foreign ecation and social communication methods are more open and generous. Don't close yourself up for fear of ridicule. You can't look down on yourself, Don't always be hostile to everyone's eyes. Maybe it's not ridicule but appreciation. The most important thing to make friends is to open your heart and talk freely. Make more friends, maybe you are not good at talking, but this is not a problem, language ability can be cultivated, as long as you are willing to speak more, you can also participate in some social activities, the gathering between students and so on. Don't always stay alone, stay at home, social public welfare activities are also very good, you should learn to show yourself, show yourself, integrate into every circle, also can participate in interested clubs, widely cultivate your interests, as long as you understand that everything can be changed, you should slowly change yourself, use the right method, spend more time, Maybe in getting along with others, you are graally changing unconsciously. As for jealousy, it is caused by your long-term self closure. Maybe it is just a kind of appreciation and admiration. As long as you treat other people's affairs with a correct view and learn to correct your inner wrong ideas in time, naturally and slowly you will not have this kind of psychology again. Finally, I hope you can get out of the psychological obstacles as soon as possible and overcome your own demons. To see the wonderful and wonderful world, life is more and more happy, happy!!!

8. You can take a look at Jin Zhengkun's talk about etiquette, which includes all of them.