Examples of de egocentrization Baidu cloud
please describe all kinds of emotions and emotions of the baby itself and other people in the environment with words
start from simple: happy, sad, afraid, calm, angry
then further understand the advanced emotions accurately: sadness, fear, friendly
finally, to some higher emotions: embarrassment, withdrawal, Anger, etc.
remember not to think that children are born with a lot of knowledge. The baby can judge and analyze self-learning either from family ecation or from TV and other social ecation
distraction is the best intervention method
children aged 2-3 have incomplete cognitive system, and the best way is to divert their attention when their emotions are out of control. Use other more attractive things to save the child from the boring and noisy mood
remember: don't be angry with your child, and reason with your child, it's all the performance of parents with low EQ
how to & quot; Egocentrism & quot; It is the main task of the baby at this stage
(tapping the blackboard, which is the source of future EQ)
let the child know & quot; You & quot& quot; I & quot& quot; He & quot; There are also differences between & quot; Your & quot& quot; My & quot& quot; His & quot; The difference
can start with sharing:
for example, a beautiful little sister came to the family, and the baby was very happy, and took a small apple to give to her sister.
many parents may immediately criticize their children for doing wrong or even for being selfish in the face of this situation
it's only after decades of life that I have accumulated my right and wrong ideas. How can I ask a two or three-year-old child to have the same right and wrong ideas as myself
what can we do
baby: if someone gives you an apple, do you want a big one or a small one
he replied without thinking: big
Yes, you see, you want to get a big one. Do you think Miss would like to receive a big one or a small one
he thought about it and replied, "big one
are you happy if someone gives you a little apple
the baby thinks: not happy
do you think little sister will be happy to receive the apple you gave him
the baby shakes his head thoughtfully: unhappy
do you want your little sister to be happy or unhappy
baby: I hope my little sister is happy
do you think you should give the teacher a big apple or a small one
baby: Big Apple
when I have similar conflicts, please describe the thoughts, feelings and expectations of people from different positions and angles as comprehensively as possible, so that the baby can realize that different people will have different thoughts, feelings and expectations from an early age
this kind of & quot; Decentralization & quot; Thinking training will be the foundation of EQ in the future
From the perspective of Internet development, decentralization is the form of social relationship and content generation formed in the process of Internet development, and is a new network content proction process relative to "centralization"
compared with the early Internet (WEB 1.0) era, today's Internet (Web 2.0) content is no longer proced by professional websites or specific groups of people, but is the result of the joint participation and equal power of all Internet users. Anyone can express their views or create original content on the Internet to proce information together
with the diversification of network service forms, the decentralized network model becomes more and more clear and possible. After the rise of Web2.0, the services provided by Wikipedia, Flickr, blogger and other network service providers are decentralized. Any participant can submit content, and Internet users can create or contribute content together
since then, with the emergence of more simple and easy-to-use decentralized network services, the characteristics of Web2.0 have become more and more obvious. For example, the birth of services more suitable for ordinary Internet users, such as twitter and Facebook, has made it easier and more diversified to proce or contribute content to the Internet, thus enhancing the enthusiasm of Internet users to participate in the contribution and recing the threshold of procing content. Eventually, every netizen becomes a tiny and independent information provider, making the Internet more flat and content proction more diversified
from the perspective of astronomy, decentralization refers to the fact that the universe has no center, that is, a boundless mass without a central point
3 "Feng Yuan bought justice for mengchang Jun" Feng Yuan's treatment improved continuously and mengchang Jun treated him very well, In order to thank mengchang Jun, Feng Yuan took the initiative to collect debts for mengchang Jun. the process of Feng Yuan's going to Xuedi to burn bonds and collect debts for mengchang Jun was actually to buy people's support for mengchang Jun. finally, mengchang Jun was dismissed by the king of Qi. When he returned to Xuedi, he finally realized the truth of Feng Yuan's burning bonds and collecting debts for mengchang Jun
4 the well-known story of "asking for mercy" has been passed down through the ages e to gratitude
2. One of the major reasons for the Qing Dynasty's demise was that it was closed, arrogant, self-centered and not communicating with the outside world
3. Buddhist good advice: the greatest sorrow in life is that you can't see yourself clearly, that you are self-centered, that you are too persistent, and that you are lost in self prejudice. If you don't have the mentality of going along with the fate and ask for everything you want, then no environment can satisfy you. Only by straightening the body and mind, using wisdom to resolve the obstacles in the heart, and removing persistent prejudice and delusion of separation, all the troubles will come to an end
4. Fable the selfish giant, emphasizing that selfishness (which can be understood as being too self-centered) will lead to tragedy in life. Specific stories can be searched
5. You should know that you should always be happy to give more to others and take less from others - Gorky
6. The rich second generation is called a social moth, partly because they are too self-centered and don't know how to give and help
7. Yao Jiaxin didn't admit his mistake in killing people, his parents doted on him, and he didn't have the idea of killing people to pay for his life in his heart, which shows that his inner self-centered degree is very serious, which leads to the lack of moral values and the loss of values
8. From many psychological studies, we can see that & quot; Self & quot; The self-centered personality will make people compare themselves with others frequently, which will lead to the decline of their happiness index
9. http://news.sina.com.cn/o/2006-09-11/07579987514s.shtml
a fox falls into the well. No matter how hard he struggles, he still can't climb up, so he has to stay there. The male goat felt thirsty. When he came to the well and saw the fox in the well, he asked him if the well water was good? The fox felt that the opportunity was coming, and he was very happy. He immediately calmed down and praised the well water. He said that the water was the best spring in the world, and it was sweet and refreshing. He advised the goat to come down and drink with him. The goat, who only wanted to drink water and believed it to be true, jumped down without thinking. When he finished drinking, he had to discuss with the fox how to go to the well. The fox had been ready for a long time. He said cunningly, "I have a
method. You put your front foot on the wall of the well, and then erect the corner. I'll jump up the well from your back, and then pull you up, and we'll all be saved The goat agreed to his proposal. The fox stepped on his hind foot and jumped on his back. Then he jumped from the corner and out of the well. After the fox went up, he was ready to run away alone. The goat accused the fox of breaking his promise. The fox looked back and said to the goat, "Hey, friend, if your mind is as perfect as your beard, you won't jump blindly before you see the exit
this story shows that smart people should think about the outcome of things before they do it.
he suffered two blows when he lost the election.
then Lincoln began to run his own business and closed down 17 of them.
he went through hardships and hardships when he went to pay off the debts of the business.
with Lincoln's decision to run for the election, State Councillor Gong Neimeng was hopeful From 1835 to 1835, he was engaged and divorced, but a few months later, his fiancee was in a good state. He was in bed for a few months and suffered from mental weakness. In 1838, Lincoln was in good health and decided to run for the State Council. In 1843, he failed to run for the U.S.
although he tried, he failed: his business closed down If you lose the election, you have to give up and say something important.
Lincoln didn't give up and didn't say: if you want to lose 1846, you will run for congressman.
you will finally run for congressman.
you will soon decide to win re-election and recognize yourself as a congressman. I believe that the voters will continue the election and regret losing the election.
Lincoln applied for local officials and the state government to withdraw from the election It refers to: to be a local official in this state requires excellence, ability and intelligence, and the application fails to meet some requirements.
two cases in succession: insisting on continuing to work hard to say that I failed.
Lincoln did not admit defeat in the 1854 Senate election; The two contests for the nomination of vice president were defeated by hand; After two unsuccessful elections for the Senate, Lincoln never gave up his pursuit of self-determination and self-determination to win the 1860 beauty contest.
he insisted on doing his best.
if he wanted to do anything, he had to insist on doing his best.
when it comes to overcoming difficulties, it might be difficult to keep on doing his best.
the author of Jane once said that it is true that all kinds of pressures are affirmed through hard work No pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no pressure, no Lonely, afraid of taking responsibility, enterprising, daring to work hard, mental outlook lost from dream
obvious performance, drift with the tide, no goal and all success early
extinguish
once failed and means forever failed, once reached the goal and means always reached the goal
dream and set up the goal
choose not emperor child; Choosing can still abandon
decision can now decide that the goal has not been set and the choice has not been made
is equal to the failure and represents the failure; Failure means no failure
or failure means no decision to do what you want now, no decision to do what you want now
failure means no discouragement, no pride, no end to failure
everything in the world will never fail forever
desperate challenges and opportunities will frighten you, and strive to create a miracle of self transcendence
Examples of celebrities realizing self-worth:
1. Jet Li
in 1982, after the film "Shaolin Temple" was released, it was hard to get a single ticket. The ticket price of a dime actually exceeded 100 million at the box office. Jet Li, a 17-year-old actor who first appeared on the screen, has become famous and popular. Monk Jueyuan, who plays him, has become an idol of teenagers. Many boys shaved their heads and went to Shaolin Temple to study martial arts
however, e to the unclear purpose, impure motivation, and ignorance of the true meaning of martial arts, not only did they fail to learn martial arts, but many children, relying on their martial arts skills, inlged in fighting and became Street gangsters. Jet Li has become a kung fu star because of his great success. He is surrounded by the aura of success and is also happy with his success
However, with the growth of his age, his uneasy mood germinates in his heart, especially when he recalls the negative impact of Shaolin Temple on a generation of young people, he is very sad that he has lost the joy of success at that time, but is worried. As a guest of CCTV TV program, he openly said that he regretted taking over Shaolin Temple because he misled some teenagers and had a bad impact on their liveshe said: "in fact, I began to blame myself after I was 30 years old. Why did I make this play at the beginning? How many teenagers did I mislead to learn martial arts? They don't know what martial arts is... I blame myself for this. " He felt so guilty that tears in his eyes apologized
Helen Keller is blind and deaf, but she has changed from a sympathetic little girl to a respected strong woman all over the world. If life is really unfair, then life is extremely unfair to her. She can give up her dream and cry in a dark corner. No one will blame her. She can also lie in bed or sit in a wheelchair and be served like a vegetablebut she didn't do all this, she just worked hard to learn blind language with the help of the teacher, touched things, only with her never giving up faith and perseverance. She painted her ideal sky with the brightest color of life
Third, Leonardo da Vinci, a famous European Renaissance painter, was fond of painting since childhood. His father sent him to Florence, a famous Italian city at that time, and worshipped the famous painter Florio as his teacher. The teacher asked him to start with drawing eggs. He painted one after another for more than ten days When the teacher saw that he was a little impatient, he said to him, "don't think it's easy to draw eggs. You know, no two of 1000 eggs are exactly the same; Even the same egg, as long as you change the angle to see the shape will be different, the oval shape of the egg will be different Therefore, we have to work hard to show it perfectly on the drawing paper. " From then on, Da Vinci studied drawing attentively. After a long period of hard work and artistic practice, he finally created many immortal paintings Fourth, Sima Guang is a child who is fond of playing and sleeping. Therefore, Sima Guang has been punished by his husband and ridiculed by his peers. Under his husband's earnest instruction, he is determined to get rid of the bad habit of sleepiness. In order to get up early, he drank a full stomach of water before going to bed. As a result, he didn't wake up in the morning, but urinated in bed So smart Sima Guang made a police pillow out of garden wood. When he turned over in the morning, his head fell on the bed board and naturally woke up. From then on, he got up early every day to study. He persevered and finally became a learned writer who wrote Zi Tongjian Dickens, a famous British writer, usually pays great attention to observing and experiencing life. No matter it's windy or rainy, Dickens goes to the streets every day to observe and listen. He records the words of pedestrians and accumulates rich means of life In this way, he wrote a wonderful description of the dialogue in David Copperfield and left a vivid description of the social background in a tale of two cities, thus becoming a great British writer and achieving great success in his literary career1. Yang Zhenning's success
Yang Zhenning, who won the Nobel Prize in physics in 1992, was determined to do a successful experiment, but he often failed. Americans laughed at him and said, "as long as there is an explosion, there will be Yang Zhenning." Yang Zhenning now also realized that he was really not suitable for doing experiments. After thousands of times of introspection, he decided to give it up and pursue other dreams
He didn't devote himself to his weakness all the time, but turned to seek other dreams, so he succeeded and became a world-famous physicist In the first World War, Germany challenged Britain for the intellectual land. As a result, it expended manpower and material resources and ended in failurein a short period of more than 20 years, it provoked World War II, and the shadow of war shrouded the world. Countless people of justice died for this. However, justice triumphed over evil, the world anti fascist war finally won, and the German fascists suffered from it
now people graally realize the power of reflection, because reflection makes people not make the same mistakes. Today's Germany, they begin to repent of the crimes they committed in those years. They never deny the evil history that brought disasters to the whole world. They actively make friends with the whole world, and they have become powerful defenders of world peace
In the Xia Dynasty, a rebellious vassal was invaded by Hu's troops, and Xiayu sent his son Boqi to resist. As a result, Boqi was defeated. His subordinates were very unconvinced and asked to continue to attack, but Boqi said, "no, I have more soldiers than him, and the land is bigger than him, but I was defeated by him. This must be because my virtue is not as good as him, and my method of leading soldiers is not as good as him From today on, I must try my best to correct it. " From then on, Boqi got up early every day to work. He took care of the people, appointed talented people and respected people with moral character. After a year, Hu knew that he did not dare to invade again. Instead, he voluntarily surrendered Tang Bohu was a famous painter and litterateur in the Ming Dynasty. He showed great talent in painting when he was young. Tang Baihu, a great painter, paid homage to his master. He studied harder and worked harder. He mastered painting skills quickly and was praised by Shen Zhouunexpectedly, e to Shen Zhou's praise, Tang Bohu, who has always been modest, graally became complacent this time. Shen Zhou looked in his eyes and kept it in mind. After a meal, Shen Zhou asked Tang Bohu to open the window. Tang Bohu found that his window was actually a painting by his teacher Shen Zhou. Tang was very ashamed and devoted himself to painting
Ye Tianshi worships his teacher and studies modestly. Once, ye Tianshi's mother was ill, and he was helpless. Thanks to Xue Xue, he cured his mother's disease. From then on, ye Tianshi understood that there is a heaven outside the world and there are people on the earth. So he visited famous doctors all over the world, sought advice with an open mind, and finally became the first famous doctor in Jiangnan