How to remove children's egocentrism in home cooperation

1. Children's egocentrism is very obvious. However, "egocentrism" in early childhood is a feature in the process of cognitive development, which does not involve selfishness in moral quality. It is not the same as the alt's selfishness which is centered on "me" and neglects the interests of others and the collective. In the process of ecation, with the improvement of children's cognitive level, they graally understand other people's ideas and views, and can overcome the cognitive "egocentrism". Piaget believes that let children participate in collective activities is the best way to overcome children's egocentrism, and the effect of collective games is better. In the process of moral cultivation, children must be socialized in the process of overcoming self centeredness. The process of socialization is the process of people growing up to be a member of human society. In this process, from the physiological and psychological level of behavior to the social level of behavior (such as communication behavior, collective attitude, social norms, etc.), especially to develop their prosocial behavior, such as sharing, help, cooperation, etc.

2. 1. I believe in children. Many parents always think that their children are young. That's not good either. They don't believe in children. This kind of understanding of parents will directly affect their parenting attitude and parenting style, which is related to the development of children. Therefore, as parents, it is very important to believe in their children. First of all, we should believe that although children are small, they have great learning and development potential, which is proved by modern scientific research. Parents who hold this kind of understanding are generally able to cultivate their children more freely, and often say to their children, "child, you can do it!" As long as parents think that other people are good at it, children will naturally have self-confidence, be able to take the initiative to use their hands and brains, have the courage to explore and try, so as to achieve rapid development; In addition, parents should also believe that every child has an upward heart. This understanding is also very important. It can enable parents to maintain a positive attitude in ecating their children, support and encourage their children, so that their children can always maintain an optimistic and upward mood and be full of self-confidence in the process of their development. Many parents who teach their children well have summed up this valuable experience. 2. Generally speaking, after two years old, children's actions and speech have developed to a certain extent, and their self-consciousness begins to sprout. At this time, they often show a strong sense of independence and desire to do everything by themselves. It is said that "newborn calves are not afraid of tigers". Infants and young children don't know the superiority of heaven and earth, and often overestimate themselves. But this desire of "I'll come by myself" reflects children's exuberant vitality and shows a primitive need to seek self affirmation. We often see infants and young children, when they want to do something and encounter parents' obstruction, they will obstinately shout: "I grow up, I grow up!" In this case, parents should not suppress their children, let alone say: "you can't do it!" In addition, children get development in activities. Parents should provide children with opportunities and conditions for activities and performance ability, and let them do all kinds of activities. In the activities, it can not only promote the development of children's body and various abilities, but also make them have a sense of control over the environment and obtain the joy of success, so as to enhance their self-confidence. If parents always confine their children to a narrow space, or do everything for their children, and do nothing for them, it is tantamount to depriving their children of the opportunity to build self-confidence through activities, and it is easy to lead to low ability, dependence, timidity and inferiority. 3. Encourage one more celebrity once said: "if a child lives with encouragement, he will learn to be confident." This shows that alt positive parenting attitude has a great impact on children. When talking about the psychological characteristics of children, Mr. Chen Heqin, a famous ecator in China, pointed out that "children like success" and "children like praise". For example, a three-year-old child likes to show his "works" to his parents in the hope of being praised. When he is four or five years old, this kind of psychology will be more intense. Parents should make use of the psychological characteristics of children. No matter what children do, they should give affirmation and encouragement as long as they do it. We should also be good at discovering children's progress and success, and give them appropriate appreciation, so that they can accumulate positive emotional experience. In addition, encouragement also includes acceptance of children's failures and shortcomings, because children learn in the process of experiencing mistakes and failures. Therefore, as long as the children make efforts, parents should give affirmation and support, and treat the children's faults with a tolerant attitude. Do not always stare at the children do not do well or insufficient place, to find fault. If parents deny and criticize their children more, they will make them feel inferior. 4. Don't ask too much, parents generally have high expectations and requirements for their children, which is understandable, but can't expect too much. Parents should adapt to the standards established by their children's development. They should consider their children's own characteristics and abilities. They can't always subjectively ask their children for too high standards. If the standard is too high, the child can't reach it, and he or she suffers from repeated failures, resulting in a sense of frustration of continuous failure, and accumulating negative emotional experience of "I can't", it is easy for the child to lose self-confidence. In addition, some parents always want to ecate their children in one step and are eager for success, which is also unrealistic. They ignore that the development of children is a graal or tortuous process. For example, two or three-year-old infants and young children ask them to eat by themselves. When they begin to eat by themselves, they often scatter all over the table. At this time, the mother not only can't blame them, but also should say to the child, "the baby is really capable and can eat by himself!" At the same time, patience can teach him how to eat better. It should be noted that children will never be able to do things, from bad to good. This is the law of development. Too high and too urgent requirements are not concive to children's development. Moreover, some parents who want their children to become talents often hope that their children are better than others everywhere, and are used to horizontal comparison. For example, some parents go to kindergartens to watch their children's activities. Whenever they find that their children are inferior to others, they tell them“ Look, so and so sing better than you“ So and so is much better than you Compare the advantages of others to the disadvantages of your own children. The original intention of parents may be to stimulate their children to catch up with others, but this kind of horizontal comparison just loses their children's self-esteem and self-confidence. Because there are obvious indivial differences in the speed and direction of children's development. The younger the children are, the greater the indivial differences are. Children have their own strengths and weaknesses in development. It is very impractical to ask their children to be better than others everywhere. Parents should never make such comparisons. 5. The cooperation between the home and the kindergarten can cultivate children's self-confidence. The family and the kindergarten should often communicate and cooperate with each other. Especially for those children who lack self-confidence, they need mutual cooperation and collaborative ecation. There are many successful examples of home cooperation to help children build self-confidence. The most effective and simplest way is to start with the simple and easy things, and usually give more encouragement, affirmation, praise and reward. It is important to note that the reward should be based on spiritual reward, supplemented by material reward. Remember to start with the simple and easy things, and stick to it, Graally, children will build up their self-confidence.

3. To answer the kindergarten how to carry out, er, home cooperation, if you want to carry out home cooperation, you must interact with the parents and strive for their consent before it can be carried out.

4. 1、 The necessity of home cooperation to cultivate small class children's self-care ability
(1) the outline clearly points out that children should be trained to have basic self-care ability
early childhood is an important period to cultivate children's self-care ability. Often letting children do it can not only provide children with exercise opportunities, but also help them build up their confidence to win, cultivate their independent consciousness, and let them harvest joy in success. However, the realization of these can not be achieved only by the strength of one party, it needs the strength of both families and kindergartens to turn into reality
(2) kindergartens take the cultivation of children's self-care ability as one of the goals of kindergarten ecation
kindergartens take the cultivation of children's self-care ability as one of the goals of kindergarten ecation, which is to enable children to be more independent in life and even benefit for life. Kindergarten teachers pay attention to the cultivation of children's self-service ability from the beginning of small classes. According to children's age characteristics, they graally improve children's self-care ability, so that children can be more energetic and colorful in their daily life and activities
(3) family is an important partner of kindergarten
however, it is far from enough to rely on the strength of kindergartens alone. Many children's self-service ability formed in kindergartens after a period of efforts and under the guidance and supervision of teachers often recovers after the holidays, so they need the cooperation of families. Only when families and kindergartens cooperate with each other can a stable platform be established for the cultivation of children's good self-care ability. Only in this way can children's healthy growth be accelerated< Second, kindergartens should play a leading role in helping small class children develop good self-care ability
in the new mode of home cooperation, kindergartens play a leading role, and this leading role should bear an important responsibility, so as to more effectively guide the development of home cooperation to a scientific road
(1) set up the activity of "self-care ability operation", carry out the practice of life self-care and labor skills operation, improve the awareness of small class children's life self-care ability
the kindergarten formulates the content and training plan of small class children's life self-care and labor skills operation, and combines the actual self-care ability and seasonal situation of small class children, from easy to difficult, from simple to deep, Graally infiltrate the content into the activities, and set up a "self-care ability operation" activity every week. If you don't master the operation content of this week, you must continue to learn and master it next week; The previous paragraph of self-care ability operation content learning is not solid enough, must be put in the next paragraph to consolidate the practice. In a word, the kindergarten should flexibly establish and implement the activity content according to the actual situation of small class children
(2) kindergartens should use various means and forms to improve the self-care ability of small class children
1. Children's self-care ability can be strengthened through vivid stories
children have infinite curiosity and yearning for stories, and teachers can intersperse story ecation in one-day activities. For example: after dinner, the teacher told the children "Mimi is really capable": in the story, Mimi is usually very lazy, and her mother has to wash and cook every day, and also take care of Mimi. One day, my mother was ill and Mimi cried. She didn't know what to do. Later, many good friends helped him. Mimi did what she could and took care of her mother. So my mother's illness soon recovered, and everyone praised Mimi's ability. Let children understand through the story through their own labor to get a happy record of the results. Teachers influence children through the plot and characters in the story, so that children can strengthen their self-care ability and consciousness under the influence of the story
2. Let small class children learn the skills of self-care ability through game activities
game is a good means to cultivate children's self-care ability. Combine some labor skills with games to let small class children accept the training and training of labor skills in such activities. For example, the use of "send toys home" game, in a group as a unit, after the children play with toys, the teacher said: "please all the children gently put the toys in the small box, and then small hands behind the back, please show the best children to gently send the toys home." Through such activities, children can not only learn to classify toys and put them in prescribed places, but also train their sitting posture and discipline. In later activities, teachers often let small class children to "send toys home" game form, let children put toys classification
3. The combination of care and ecation, give full play to the role of caregivers, and improve the self-care ability of small class children in practice. As a child's life teacher, the caregiver is also a teacher's right-hand assistant. When young children encounter problems in self-care, the caregivers analyze the difficulties and consider whether they can help the children to complete it directly, give appropriate help, or guide them to learn how to complete it, or teach them how to complete it. Let children overcome this difficulty in a graal process. Teachers and caregivers should encourage young children who are able to dress or urinate by themselves. If they have difficulties, they can ask teachers for help< (3) deepen and consolidate the self-care behavior of small class children
1. In repeated training, it is not easy for small class children to form the habit of self-care. Therefore, in order to form a good habit of self-care ability, it needs to be graally formed in the repeated process, especially for small class children, they need to be reminded and helped by teachers or alts. Teachers should infiltrate the cultivation of small class children's self-care ability into the daily activities of kindergarten. You can specify the self-care ability training plan, such as eating, drinking, sleeping and activities on time, so as to lay the foundation for good self-care habits in the future. For example, when it comes to dining, I ask children not to speak or be picky about food, to eat independently, not to drop vegetables or meals on the table, to keep the table clean, to sit correctly, and to raise their hands when adding meals. After dinner, please send bowl, wipe mouth and gargle; Let children urinate, wash hands, drink water and other aspects, teachers try to let children do. If children can't lift their pants after urination, teachers should patiently and repeatedly teach children to lift the front and back with two hands. If necessary, teachers can make certain demonstration, so that small class children can graally learn this skill. It is believed that under such repeated practice and reminders, children can form good self-care ability and habits
2. Through regular evaluation, the confidence of small class children's self-care ability can be enhanced
children's self-care ability can be continuously improved in constant reminders and exercises, and regular evaluation activities in kindergartens can further enhance the confidence of small class children's self-care ability. For example, to carry out "see me the best" competition activities, including: dress, button, shoes and socks, take and put the cup, eat snacks, clean up toys, wash hands and so on. The teacher evaluates the children, selects the children who get the most pentagram, and gives praise and reward
thirdly, families should actively cooperate with kindergartens to jointly promote the cultivation of children's self-care ability. Families are the first place for children's life and learning, and are also important partners of kindergartens. Parents are the first teachers of children. Family's active cooperation with kindergarten can not only rece the burden of kindergarten teachers, but also promote the growth of children, so it is no longer a problem to cooperate in the home to jointly promote the cultivation of small class children's self-care ability
(1) actively participate in the implementation of the home contact form
the role of the home contact form is the specific requirements of the kindergarten for parents in terms of behavior habits, requiring parents to actively cooperate with and strictly supervise the implementation of children, and praising the progress of children, so as to help small class children develop good self-care behavior habits. According to the age of small class children and the common problems, the specific content is stipulated: get up early and go to bed early, be polite, do your own things, eat independently, brush your teeth in the morning and evening, love labor, not picky about food, love and clean up toys, etc. Parents can evaluate their children according to the diagram and record their good performance and interesting things at home in the notes. Parents should keep detailed and careful records every day, teachers should organize and make statistics carefully, kindergartens should summarize every week, and encourage children with obvious progress in the form of honor list. In this way, parents and children will actively participate in such a form of activity, can help children's shortcomings in time
(2) actively participate in parents' open day activities
one day a week is a fixed open day for parents to visit the kindergarten and watch children's ability and habits. Parents' participation can not only understand the daily activities and routines of the kindergarten, but also more directly understand the situation and performance of children in the kindergarten. In this way, parents can find the advantages and disadvantages of children, can re-establish the correct concept of ecation, give children a correct guidance and help< (3) to establish a good family environment for ecation and training
1. To cultivate children's good self-care ability is inseparable from the good family ecation environment created by parents. Pictures of children's learning self-care ability can be pasted in children's and their home rooms; Such as: pictures of children wearing clothes, pictures of cleaning up toys. You can also paste pictures of small animals brushing their teeth and washing their faces in the bathroom; Usually the home can also play some songs and cartoons to teach children to learn to take care of themselves and so on. Through these forms, children are willing to learn and imitate, so as to graally cultivate a good ability of self-care
2. A good family ecation environment is inseparable from the cooperation of every family member
for example, the father requires the children to wear their own clothes, while the mother helps the children to wear clothes from time to time. This will cause a contradiction between asking the children to do it and doing it for them, which is not concive to the cultivation of children's good self-care ability. Such inconsistencies will bring adverse effects on children's physical and mental development, and even become a stumbling block in cultivating children's good self-care ability. Therefore, it is very important to keep the consistency of ecation among family members, so as to give children a correct direction and goal
3. Parents can take the initiative to arrange for children to participate in self-service activities and labor within their ability
children at home, opportunities to learn self-care ability are everywhere, as long as parents dare to let children try, experience what they want to do and what they can do. Parents can take the initiative to cooperate with the routine ecation of the kindergarten, and arrange some self-service activities and labor for the children to the best of their ability. In daily life, let the children try by themselves, of course, on the premise of no danger. For example: in the morning, children should wear clothes. If they are afraid of wearing clothes too slowly, they can go to bed early and get up early to give them enough time to learn how to dress themselves; When eating, set a meal time with the children. When the time comes, clean up the dishes and chopsticks immediately, so that the children can eat in time and eat by themselves. Parents must adhere to the principle of "doing their own things, learning to do what they can't do", and create more exercises for children

5. The healthy growth of children needs the consistency of family ecation and kindergarten ecation. If there are differences between the family and kindergarten, the children in the middle will be at a loss. The joint force formed by a good home relationship can promote the physical and mental development of children. Therefore, it is of great significance for kindergartens to establish a good home cooperation relationship. However, in the process of implementing the "Outline", the fact is not satisfactory. After visiting and observing some kindergartens, the author found that some kindergartens have no awareness of cooperation with their parents. Even some kindergartens with good hardware and software still have many problems when they cooperate with their parents. These problems are mainly manifested in the following aspects:
(1) in the communication between teachers and parents, the status is unequal
equality is the basis of communication, only on the basis of equality, can teachers and parents carry out full communication and cooperation. However, there are two kinds of unequal tendencies in the work of parents in some kindergartens. One is that teachers are obviously in a high position, often appear as ecation experts, and communicate with parents to ecate parents. The other is that parents are in a high position, and teachers overemphasize the service tasks of kindergartens. They think of themselves as simply serving their parents. They are afraid of their parents' trouble everywhere. Their work is like reporting to their parents< Home cooperation is a two-way interactive activity, so there must be the active participation and cooperation of families. However, from the perspective of parents' participation in early childhood ecation in the current home cooperation work, parents' participation and cooperation still stays at the superficial level of "formal participation", such as attending parents' meeting or learning about children's performance in kindergarten from teachers, while deep level parents' participation and substantial home cooperation, such as parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten management, parents' participation in kindergarten It is quite rare to decide curriculum design with teachers
(3) the responsibility of family and kindergarten in home cooperation is not clear
Home cooperation is the cooperation between family and kindergarten. Since it is a work of mutual cooperation, there must be a certain division of responsibilities in order to make the cooperation work go on normally and orderly. However, as far as the current situation is concerned, some kindergartens do not have a formal home cooperation system. A large number of teachers do not fully understand the connotation of home cooperation, and do not have a clear understanding of the status of kindergarten in home cooperation and the role teachers should play in home cooperation
to solve the problems existing in the work of home cooperation and promote the work of home cooperation, we can start from the following aspects:
(1) establish a correct ecational concept and strengthen the sense of cooperation
Makarenko said that "schools should lead families", and teachers are ecators with professional knowledge, Therefore, kindergartens should play a leading role in home cooperation, and teachers and kindergartens should be the initiators, coordinators and planners of home cooperation activities. As kindergartens and teachers themselves, we should first realize the significance of home cooperation, update the concept of ecation, and establish the concept of big ecation. The purpose of early childhood ecation is to promote the development of children's physical and mental aspects, and the work of kindergartens should be carried out around this purpose. A large number of studies have shown that a good home relationship can help children form positive learning attitude and behavior, cultivate learning perseverance, and effectively promote children's emotional and social development. In addition, a good home relationship can not only promote the development of children, but also improve the quality of teachers and kindergartens and the level of ecation and teaching. A good home relationship is not only a link between teachers, children and parents, but also a driving force for their common growth and improvement. Therefore, in order to improve the level of kindergarten ecation, kindergartens and teachers should not stick to their original activity plan, but actively cooperate with parents
(2) to improve parents' urban level and participation awareness
Home cooperation is a two-way interactive activity, which needs the active cooperation of kindergarten and family. Therefore, it is not enough to only initiate kindergarten, and it is very important to enhance parents' ecation awareness and level. Some parents think that ecation is a matter of kindergarten, and they are unwilling to participate in it. Some parents overemphasize the learning of knowledge, arrange and replace, spoil and so on. These ideas of parents are also important factors that cause disharmony in their homes. Therefore, kindergartens must vigorously publicize scientific parenting knowledge to parents to improve their awareness and level of participation in kindergarten ecation. Only by improving the quality of teachers and ecation together, can the cooperation between home and family develop to a deeper level in an atmosphere of equality and harmony
(3) improve the cooperation ability of both sides of the home
cooperation is a kind of social communication ability. There may be many contradictions between the two sides in their work. If the contradictions intensify, the cooperation may break down, or even cause worse effects. Home cooperation and other cooperative work, there are contradictions between the two sides, which requires the two sides to have an equal attitude, mutual understanding, mutual respect, around the "better promote the development of children" this core, formulate corresponding rules and regulations, clear responsibilities, deal with the contradictions and conflicts in cooperation
(4) carry out various forms of activities to promote the deep development of home cooperation
the purpose of home cooperation is to organically combine family ecation and kindergarten ecation, closely cooperate with each other, and promote children's better development. Therefore, the form of home cooperation is not just the display of kindergarten learning achievements, the reception and conversation, etc. There are many forms of home cooperation, such as allowing parents to participate in the ecational activities organized by the class, organizing the parents committee to participate in the management, and fully exploring the ecational resources of the community. Parents can be said to be an important source of ecational resources in kindergartens. For example, the occupation, experience and interests of the head of a family can help kindergartens carry out certain ecational activities to make up for the lack of teachers' knowledge and experience. Even the advanced ecational experience formed by some parents in the process of ecation can "Refresh" teachers' ecational contents and methods
parents' participation in ecation activities can enrich the content and form of kindergarten ecation activities. The opinions and suggestions of parents' committee can urge kindergartens and kindergarten teachers to improve continuously. The use of social ecation resources can also expand the space for children's activities, so that they can experience the connotation and value of local social culture, feel the broad and profound culture of their hometown, and accept the love of their hometown Love the ecation of the motherland. Therefore, kindergartens should start from their own reality, widely tap the ecational resources available in families and communities, and carry out various forms of activities, so as to make home cooperation develop to a deeper level
Home cooperation is an inevitable trend in early childhood ecation, and teachers and kindergartens who play a leading role in it should really take home cooperation as one of their important work, and seriously think about the ways of home cooperation in line with the actual situation of the region and the kindergarten, so as to implement the concept and reputation, make full use of ecational resources and promote the development of children.

6. Overcome self-centered consciousness - wayward teaching objectives: 1, through activities to help students recognize the disadvantages of wayward. 2. Through activities, guide students to consciously get rid of willful bad habits. Key point: recognize the disadvantages of willfulness. Difficulty: get rid of capricious bad habits. 1、 Prepare sketches before class -- the willful "little emperor" teacher should select six students in advance, play different roles, and guide the students to rehearse (emphasize the intonation and manner of lines, pay attention to the design of body movements and props). 1. Teacher's class topic: students, willfulness is often seen in our life. Today, let's discuss the problem of willfulness. First, please watch a sketch. 2. Who is the willful "little emperor" 2) The "little emperor" has those bad problems 3) What are the disadvantages of willfulness. 3. Put forward the requirements of Watching: watch carefully, think positively, and tell students that this is respect for students. 2、 Discussion 1. Discussion method guidance: discussion is a very important learning method, and also an important means for people to communicate with each other. In the process of discussion, we should express our own opinions, seek common ground while reserving differences, express our own opinions calmly, and listen to others' opinions with an open mind and carefully. 2. Discuss the above problems in groups of four. 3. According to the content of the sketch, combined with their own situation, discuss the bad habits and disadvantages of willfulness. 3、 Start 1, self-test, complete the survey paper (require serious, truthful filling, tell students honesty is a virtue) 2, find out the way to overcome wayward 3, for the survey paper of wayward problems, the whole class to discuss and exchange. 4、 Summary 1. Self evaluation: what problem did we mainly discuss in this class? Do you recognize the disadvantages of willfulness? Do you have any wayward problems and find a way to correct them? Have you learned how to discuss? Did you get anything? 2. Teacher's summary: today we have discussed "capricious". We are all very serious and have made a lot of efforts to overcome it. I believe that students will not be capricious children, right? 6、 Excerpt: willfulness is a bad guy. Don't make friends with it. After teaching: the sketch performance brings joy to the students, but also makes the students learn to think, learn to distinguish right from wrong, recognize the disadvantages of wayward, and find a solution to wayward. At the same time, we have mastered the learning method of discussion and learned to respect others