Examples of de egocentrism
please describe all kinds of emotions and emotions of the baby itself and other people in the environment with words
start from simple: happy, sad, afraid, calm, angry
then further understand the advanced emotions accurately: sadness, fear, friendly
finally, to some higher emotions: embarrassment, withdrawal, Anger, etc.
remember not to think that children are born with a lot of knowledge. The baby can judge and analyze self-learning either from family ecation or from TV and other social ecation
distraction is the best intervention method
children aged 2-3 have incomplete cognitive system, and the best way is to divert their attention when their emotions are out of control. Use other more attractive things to save the child from the boring and noisy mood
remember: don't be angry with your child, and reason with your child, it's all the performance of parents with low EQ
how to & quot; Egocentrism & quot; It is the main task of the baby at this stage
(tapping the blackboard, which is the source of future EQ)
let the child know & quot; You & quot& quot; I & quot& quot; He & quot; There are also differences between & quot; Your & quot& quot; My & quot& quot; His & quot; The difference
can start with sharing:
for example, a beautiful little sister came to the family, and the baby was very happy, and took a small apple to give to her sister.
many parents may immediately criticize their children for doing wrong or even for being selfish in the face of this situation
it's only after decades of life that I have accumulated my right and wrong ideas. How can I ask a two or three-year-old child to have the same right and wrong ideas as myself
what can we do
baby: if someone gives you an apple, do you want a big one or a small one
he replied without thinking: big
Yes, you see, you want to get a big one. Do you think Miss would like to receive a big one or a small one
he thought about it and replied, "big one
are you happy if someone gives you a little apple
the baby thinks: not happy
do you think little sister will be happy to receive the apple you gave him
the baby shakes his head thoughtfully: unhappy
do you want your little sister to be happy or unhappy
baby: I hope my little sister is happy
do you think you should give the teacher a big apple or a small one
baby: Big Apple
when I have similar conflicts, please describe the thoughts, feelings and expectations of people from different positions and angles as comprehensively as possible, so that the baby can realize that different people will have different thoughts, feelings and expectations from an early age
this kind of & quot; Decentralization & quot; Thinking training will be the foundation of EQ in the future
From the perspective of Internet development, decentralization is the form of social relationship and content generation formed in the process of Internet development, and is a new network content proction process relative to "centralization"
compared with the early Internet (WEB 1.0) era, today's Internet (Web 2.0) content is no longer proced by professional websites or specific groups of people, but is the result of the joint participation and equal power of all Internet users. Anyone can express their views or create original content on the Internet to proce information together
with the diversification of network service forms, the decentralized network model becomes more and more clear and possible. After the rise of Web2.0, the services provided by Wikipedia, Flickr, blogger and other network service providers are decentralized. Any participant can submit content, and Internet users can create or contribute content together
since then, with the emergence of more simple and easy-to-use decentralized network services, the characteristics of Web2.0 have become more and more obvious. For example, the birth of services more suitable for ordinary Internet users, such as twitter and Facebook, has made it easier and more diversified to proce or contribute content to the Internet, thus enhancing the enthusiasm of Internet users to participate in the contribution and recing the threshold of procing content. Eventually, every netizen becomes a tiny and independent information provider, making the Internet more flat and content proction more diversified
from the perspective of astronomy, decentralization refers to the fact that the universe has no center, that is, a boundless mass without a central point
Decentralization means no center
extended meaning: with the deepening of the interaction between subject and object, the continuous balance of cognitive function and the continuous improvement of cognitive structure, the indivial can be released from the egocentric state, which Piaget calls decentralization
This kind of open, flat and equal system phenomenon or structure is called decentralization
extended data:
in a system with many nodes, each node has the characteristics of high degree of autonomy. Nodes can connect freely to each other to form a new connection unit. Any node may become the stage center, but it does not have the mandatory central control function. The influence between nodes will form nonlinear causality through the network. This open, flat and equal system phenomenon or structure is called decentralization
with the deepening of the interaction between subject and object, the constant balance of cognitive function and the continuous improvement of cognitive structure, the indivial can be released from the egocentric state, which is called decentralization
2. One of the major reasons for the Qing Dynasty's demise was that it was closed, arrogant, self-centered and not communicating with the outside world
3. Buddhist good advice: the greatest sorrow in life is that you can't see yourself clearly, that you are self-centered, that you are too persistent, and that you are lost in self prejudice. If you don't have the mentality of going along with the fate and ask for everything you want, then no environment can satisfy you. Only by straightening the body and mind, using wisdom to resolve the obstacles in the heart, and removing persistent prejudice and delusion of separation, all the troubles will come to an end
4. Fable the selfish giant, emphasizing that selfishness (which can be understood as being too self-centered) will lead to tragedy in life. Specific stories can be searched
5. You should know that you should always be happy to give more to others and take less from others - Gorky
6. The rich second generation is called a social moth, partly because they are too self-centered and don't know how to give and help
7. Yao Jiaxin didn't admit his mistake in killing people, his parents doted on him, and he didn't have the idea of killing people to pay for his life in his heart, which shows that his inner self-centered degree is very serious, which leads to the lack of moral values and the loss of values
8. From many psychological studies, we can see that & quot; Self & quot; The self-centered personality will make people compare themselves with others frequently, which will lead to the decline of their happiness index
9. http://news.sina.com.cn/o/2006-09-11/07579987514s.shtml
a fox falls into the well. No matter how hard he struggles, he still can't climb up, so he has to stay there. The male goat felt thirsty. When he came to the well and saw the fox in the well, he asked him if the well water was good? The fox felt that the opportunity was coming, and he was very happy. He immediately calmed down and praised the well water. He said that the water was the best spring in the world, and it was sweet and refreshing. He advised the goat to come down and drink with him. The goat, who only wanted to drink water and believed it to be true, jumped down without thinking. When he finished drinking, he had to discuss with the fox how to go to the well. The fox had been ready for a long time. He said cunningly, "I have a
method. You put your front foot on the wall of the well, and then erect the corner. I'll jump up the well from your back, and then pull you up, and we'll all be saved The goat agreed to his proposal. The fox stepped on his hind foot and jumped on his back. Then he jumped from the corner and out of the well. After the fox went up, he was ready to run away alone. The goat accused the fox of breaking his promise. The fox looked back and said to the goat, "Hey, friend, if your mind is as perfect as your beard, you won't jump blindly before you see the exit
this story shows that smart people should think about the outcome of things before they do it.
1. Egocentrism in psychology is children's self-centered mental state and behavior tendency in the process of intelligent development
egocentrism is a concept put forward by Swiss psychologist Piaget
Piaget believes that there is a qualitative difference between the thinking of young children and alts. They can't distinguish themselves from objective things, and project their own attributes on external things. They think that sun, moon, mountain and river all have life and will. They can't distinguish their own feelings from the situation of others. If they think the soup in their own bowl is hot, they think the soup in others' bowl is also hotthe process of children's growth is a process of "decentralization", graally realizing the difference between self and external things, the difference between self and others. Graally pay attention to the feelings and wishes of others in interpersonal communication
Due to the lack of family and social ecation and the lack of personal self perception, some alts' way of thinking is still self-centered There is a fundamental difference between egocentrism in psychology and indivialism and egoism in ethicsplease refer to the entry of "egocentrism" in psychology volume of "complete book of China's Internet", written by Lu Jun
2. Ethical egocentrism
egocentrism is alts' self-centered psychological state and behavior tendency in interpersonal relationship. The specific performance is as follows:
1. Including the heart of a villain and the belly of a gentleman; Also includes the heart of a gentleman, Du villain's belly
(2) impose what you want on others. It includes good intentions and bad deeds; It also includes bad intentions and bad deeds“ "Don't do to others what you don't want to do to yourself" is a moral principle advocated by Confucius, which is reasonable“ It is a wrong principle to deal with interpersonal relationship, which is harmful It can be seen that egocentrism is not all indivialism and egoism, but some of the ways of thinking and behavior belong to indivialism and egoismin a word, psychological egocentrism can be naturally dispelled in life; The egocentrism in ethics can only be overcome by enhancing the cognitive ability and improving the moral level