Examples of children's de egocentrization

1. Parents' first EQ class, the baby's cognition of the surrounding is self-learning ability, but parents' planned interaction is the best ecation at this time
please describe all kinds of emotions and emotions of the baby itself and other people in the environment with words
start from simple: happy, sad, afraid, calm, angry
then further understand the advanced emotions accurately: sadness, fear, friendly
finally, to some higher emotions: embarrassment, withdrawal, Anger, etc.
remember not to think that children are born with a lot of knowledge. The baby can judge and analyze self-learning either from family ecation or from TV and other social ecation
distraction is the best intervention method
children aged 2-3 have incomplete cognitive system, and the best way is to divert their attention when their emotions are out of control. Use other more attractive things to save the child from the boring and noisy mood
remember: don't be angry with your child, and reason with your child, it's all the performance of parents with low EQ
how to & quot; Egocentrism & quot; It is the main task of the baby at this stage
(tapping the blackboard, which is the source of future EQ)
let the child know & quot; You & quot& quot; I & quot& quot; He & quot; There are also differences between & quot; Your & quot& quot; My & quot& quot; His & quot; The difference
can start with sharing:
for example, a beautiful little sister came to the family, and the baby was very happy, and took a small apple to give to her sister.
many parents may immediately criticize their children for doing wrong or even for being selfish in the face of this situation
it's only after decades of life that I have accumulated my right and wrong ideas. How can I ask a two or three-year-old child to have the same right and wrong ideas as myself
what can we do
baby: if someone gives you an apple, do you want a big one or a small one
he replied without thinking: big
Yes, you see, you want to get a big one. Do you think Miss would like to receive a big one or a small one
he thought about it and replied, "big one
are you happy if someone gives you a little apple
the baby thinks: not happy
do you think little sister will be happy to receive the apple you gave him
the baby shakes his head thoughtfully: unhappy
do you want your little sister to be happy or unhappy
baby: I hope my little sister is happy
do you think you should give the teacher a big apple or a small one
baby: Big Apple
when I have similar conflicts, please describe the thoughts, feelings and expectations of people from different positions and angles as comprehensively as possible, so that the baby can realize that different people will have different thoughts, feelings and expectations from an early age
this kind of & quot; Decentralization & quot; Thinking training will be the foundation of EQ in the future

2. Egocentrism refers to children's thinking deficiencies e to their low level of thinking development. It means that indivials tend to know things from their own standpoint and point of view, but not from the objective and other people's standpoint and point of view. From being unable to distinguish the self from the outside world to getting rid of the dependence on action and direct perception, being able to distinguish the self from the outside world, representing other people's psychological world, and acquiring the ability of opinion selection. In the early stage of sensorimotor, the egocentrism of children's thinking is that they can't distinguish themselves from the outside world. They live in the "here and now" world completely and don't realize that there is a broader world besides their feelings. At the end of the sensorimotor stage, with the emergence of symbolic function, children can distinguish themselves from the outside world, which is a manifestation of de egocentrism. In the pre operation stage, children's egocentrism of thinking is reflected in the representation level. At this time, although children have formed a representation of things, they can't represent other people's psychological world. What they think and feel is always the same as what they think and feel, and they don't have the ability of opinion selection. After entering the specific operation stage, children's thinking is further de egocentric, which shows that they can understand things from multiple dimensions, and they can realize that different people often hold different views and attitudes towards the same thing, that is, they have the ability of opinion selection. Therefore, Piaget believes that the development of children's thinking from low level to high level is a process of de egocentrism.

3. The strength of children's egocentrism can be written through your own observation and data analysis.

4. There are always dangers in life, and people often become the victims of danger. But the danger is not so terrible, if you know certain self-help methods and protective measures, the danger will be far away from us

[on the evening of November 16, 2004, Yuan Yuan was doing her homework at home as usual. Yuan Yuan's mother helped her father, who was injured in her feet, into the bathroom. After finishing her homework, Yuan Yuan came out to find her mother, but she didn't even hear a few shouts. When she came to the bathroom door, she heard the sound of running water and smelled a smell of gas. She quickly pushed the door open, I saw my parents have both fainted on the bathroom floor. In the face of this scene, Yuan Yuan did not panic. She remembered the emergency self-help knowledge she had learned in class. According to the teacher's method, she quickly closed the gas valve and opened the doors and windows. Because of the resial gas on the scene, she was worried that calling might cause an explosion. So she picked up her father's handset and went outside to call 110 or 120. After calling the police, she also called several relatives for help. Due to the timely rescue, Yuan Yuan's parents were finally pulled back from the death line

5. First, accept your child's self-centered thinking. Self centered thinking is just a child's cognitive style, which is different from selfishness and is not a personality defect. Therefore, parents should respect their child's self-centered thinking rather than blame and criticism. In fact, alts are often self-centered. For example, some people will complain about why others don't help them; Some people don't respect other people's opinions in group discussion and think that only they are right... Therefore, parents need to treat them with a normal mind and don't need to force correction, otherwise it will only hurt their children's hearts. 2、 Don't spoil your child too much. Parents can understand how they love their child. But if they spoil their child too much, for example, they often say "all these are for you", "all these are bought for you" and "baby can play wherever you want", it will only make the child more self-centered and will not consider other people's feelings at all. You can tell your child "share some food with your grandmother", "play with other children", "let your mother have a rest", let him know that there are others, and put others in the "leading role" position appropriately. After a long time, the child can pay attention to others. 3、 Let children learn empathy. If children learn empathy, their egocentric thinking will change. For example, if he is sleepy and wants to sleep, his mother can pretend to pester him to play with him and not let him sleep, saying, "next time my mother is tired, do you want my mother to rest?" For another example, if he doesn't want to share food with others, his mother can say, "if his mother doesn't share it with you, where are you going to eat?" This kind of guidance will make children feel the same and know how to consider other people's feelings. 4、 Through the game, children learn to transpose thinking, why children have self-centered thinking, because no one teaches them how to consider things from the perspective of others, the game can make children learn to transpose thinking. Hands up game: mother and child stand face to face, let the child raise his right hand, and then ask him: "which hand should I raise?" At this time, the child needs to consider the problem from the position of the mother. Hide and seek: parents can first show their children where they will hide. In the process of playing, parents can hide for their children to find. At this time, the child has to think in another place: if I was a mom and Dad, where would I choose to hide? Role Playing: this kind of game is the most attractive for children, and it can also guide them to think in transposition. For example, "the wolf catches the lamb". If the child plays the wolf, he should consider the problem from the perspective of the wolf: where will the lamb hide? How to catch it? wait. These fun role-playing games can let children play a variety of roles in a short time, experience the inner world of different roles, so as to achieve the effect of learning transposition thinking. 5、 Let the child experience the result of self centeredness. For example, when Ann answers the phone, her father just nods and doesn't speak. Let Ann experience how it feels when she can't hear when she answers the phone. In this way, when she answers the phone next time, Ann will know that she has to speak out before she answers the phone. 6、 In practice, learning psychologist Burke has done three mountain experiment similar to Piaget's, and found that when children are familiar with the scene and the problem is relatively easy to understand, children can consider other people's feelings. It can be seen that children's self-centered tendency is related to the familiarity with the scene and the degree of life. Therefore, children can graally get rid of the self-centered thinking by providing rich materials and environment for them to observe and operate by themselves
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Everything is mine How should parents guide

3-year-old children to be "selfish and domineering"? When chatting with Xiaobei's mother, she said that she was very worried. Xiaobei had just turned three years old, and her character and behavior tended to be "selfish and domineering". When children came to play at home, Xiaobei protected her toys tightly, No matter how the alts persuade him to share, he doesn't want to be touched

Xiaobei is trying to buy a cake, but his mother bought it for him. It happened that grandma came to see him. Xiaobei's mother said, "Xiaobei, you can't patronize yourself. How about sharing the cake with grandma?" Xiaobei immediately refused: "no, no, this is my cake."

grandma laughed and teased him and said, "Xiao Bei, you see grandma has brought you your favorite fruit. Why don't you give grandma a bite of cake?" Xiaobei ignored it, took a big bite, finished the cake and said, "I want to eat it all." On one side of the small North mother heard, angry and can't beat can't scold, don't know what to do

Why do 3-year-old children have egocentric behavior? Many parents are also very puzzled: obviously at this time, the child is still as simple as a piece of white paper, not contaminated by the sophistication of the world. With such development, will the child grow up to be selfish, indifferent and unreasonable