De egocentric observation record
Publish: 2021-04-15 23:41:12
1.
According to the basic principle of egocentrism, "egocentrism" is similar to indivialism in ethics, and closer to egoism and hedonism
But the more important difference is that egocentrism represents radical selfish thought. When everything except oneself is regarded as false, "I" is only dominated by "I" thoughttherefore, morality here is only the constraint of "I" nature on "I" thought, and all these are changeable. In short, egocentrism advocates complete freedom, arbitrary, no ethical constraints, all decisions according to the "I" will
objective egocentrism
the center here is still "I", but not "I" thought, more attention to "real" me. Objective egocentrism denies the general definition of "I" and holds that "I" is also false
However, this so-called reality is an abstract concept and may not exist in essencethe difference between objective egocentrism and subjective egocentrism is that the former is closer to the definition theory, and the most important difference between the two is not only the definition of "I", but also the attitude of "I think, therefore I am"
2. The strength of children's egocentrism can be written through your own observation and data analysis.
3. 1. To correctly understand the social reality, everyone in the society has their own desires and needs, as well as their rights and obligations, which will inevitably lead to contradictions, and it is impossible for everyone to achieve their wishes. If we can face up to the objective reality, learn to reciprocate, and make some concessions when necessary, we will avoid being self-centered. Of course, we should recognize the right of self and the satisfaction of desire, but we can't just focus on ourselves and ignore the existence of others. If you have only yourself in your heart and no one else, you will not be in other people's heart
2. Think more from the perspective of others and put yourself in other people's shoes. In order to understand others. We should also learn how to respect, care for and help others, so that we can get the reward of others and experience the value and happiness of life
3. Strengthen self-cultivation and fully realize the unreality, irrationality and harmfulness of self-centered consciousness. Learn to control your desires and actions. The satisfaction of self-interest should be placed on a reasonable and feasible basis without harming others. We should leave our care to others and our common will to ourselves
4. Listen to others' opinions. If we listen to various opinions, we can distinguish right from wrong and correctly understand things; If you just listen to what you say, you will be confused and make one-sided mistakes. The reason lies in the complexity of things in the world, people are limited by their own knowledge, experience, concept, self-cultivation and other factors, so it is inevitable that there is a lack of opinion; If a large number of opinions are gathered, synthesized, compared and identified, so as to eliminate the false and retain the true, abandon the fallacy and take the true interpretation, it will naturally be more just and reasonable
if you go out of your own world, you will win more friendship. Young people's life can not be without the moistening of friendship, otherwise there will be maladjustment and anxiety everywhere in their life.
2. Think more from the perspective of others and put yourself in other people's shoes. In order to understand others. We should also learn how to respect, care for and help others, so that we can get the reward of others and experience the value and happiness of life
3. Strengthen self-cultivation and fully realize the unreality, irrationality and harmfulness of self-centered consciousness. Learn to control your desires and actions. The satisfaction of self-interest should be placed on a reasonable and feasible basis without harming others. We should leave our care to others and our common will to ourselves
4. Listen to others' opinions. If we listen to various opinions, we can distinguish right from wrong and correctly understand things; If you just listen to what you say, you will be confused and make one-sided mistakes. The reason lies in the complexity of things in the world, people are limited by their own knowledge, experience, concept, self-cultivation and other factors, so it is inevitable that there is a lack of opinion; If a large number of opinions are gathered, synthesized, compared and identified, so as to eliminate the false and retain the true, abandon the fallacy and take the true interpretation, it will naturally be more just and reasonable
if you go out of your own world, you will win more friendship. Young people's life can not be without the moistening of friendship, otherwise there will be maladjustment and anxiety everywhere in their life.
4. Think more from the perspective of others, level your mind, open your heart and listen more.
5. "Teacher, Xiao Hong stepped on my foot!" In class, a loud and clear voice interrupted my speech
Xiaomei, a 10-year-old, is a big "accuser" in our class. One of the characteristics of Xiaomei's "complaint" is that she never cares about the occasion. She often comes out with two words in class, every time it's a small thing
once in class, I asked a question, and many students raised their hands high. Xiaomei is a studious student, but this problem is relatively simple. I have to take care of other students who usually speak very little, so I called Xiaoli. At this time, I clearly see Xiaomei's face suddenly dark down, hand "pa" sound hit on the table, and I clearly heard a curse dialect "treasure"
on another occasion, Xiaomei watched TV with her sister (uncle's child) from afar. They didn't agree on which channel to watch, so Xiaomei threw the remote control, got into the bed and said loudly to her sister, "go back, this is not your home!"
Xiaomei's performance is called "self-centered consciousness" in psychology, which is a kind of personality disorder. Such children tend to focus too much on their own needs and interests, and can not adopt different opinions
the formation of children's "self-centered consciousness" is often related to inappropriate family ecation methods. Now let's look back at Xiaomei's family. Xiaomei lived in a big family when she was a child. Her grandparents revolved around Xiaomei all day. Later my uncle got married and had children, so my grandparents were naturally distracted. Sometimes when it comes to her sister's kindness, Xiaomei is not happy. She feels left out in the cold, as if her family no longer likes her. Later, mom and dad changed their jobs. They were far away from home and seldom went home. Xiaomei lived with her grandparents. Grandparents love Xiaomei very much, no matter what Xiaomei wants, they will satisfy her. Last year, Xiaomei's mother died of illness, and her grandparents were even more distressed for Xiaomei. Everything went along with her. Xiaomei lost her temper and even ran away from home
from the above analysis, we believe that Xiaomei lives in a doting family, parents are obedient and obedient to their children, which makes their children develop a willful and self respecting character< It is an important ecational task to overcome the self-centered consciousness, which requires the cooperation of family and school and the adoption of scientific ecational methods. In my opinion, efforts can be made in the following aspects:
first, family members should unify their ideas and raise their awareness. Now the society is a society of cooperation and competition, and a person's strength is small. If you want to be invincible in the competition, you have to establish a good relationship with people, learn to communicate and learn to cooperate
in addition, sooner or later, children have to get in touch with society, integrate into society, and accept the challenges of setbacks. To realize that it is necessary to cultivate children's spirit of cooperation from childhood
secondly, family ecation should master the principles, and can't satisfy children's wishes endlessly. On the premise of providing necessary material conditions for children, we should learn to say "no" to children
thirdly, we should master the methods of family ecation. You can't be obedient to children, you can't command them. To create a democratic and relaxed family environment for children, family members should be their friends. For example, take turns in charge of the family with the children, so that the children can experience the hard work of their parents; There are delicious food to share with children, rather than let children eat alone; When a conflict between a child and his partner cannot be solved, parents should neither blame other children for their mistakes, nor simply and rudely blame their own children. They should guide their children to analyze the causes and find solutions with their children< First, teachers should be full of love for children. A self-centered child is a treasure in the family. If he feels that his classmates don't care about him at school and the teacher ignores him, his temper will not decrease, but will grow
secondly, teachers should use cold treatment when dealing with such children's problems. If a teacher is concerned about him at ordinary times, he will believe that he will deal with his affairs when he encounters problems. When he complains, the teacher can refuse to say: "the teacher will be very busy. I will help you later, OK?" After he calms down a little, you can analyze the reasons for him and explain the truth. I think he can accept it
thirdly, create an environment for children to cooperate and share. Design some activities to make children experience the importance of cooperation and the happiness of sharing
Fourth, teach children to care for and help others. In life, guide children to pay attention to others, empathize with others, and think from others' feelings. One is to tell students more stories about caring for others. Second, let children do more practical things to help others
in a word, if the family and school cooperate together, do not spoil the children, let the children participate in collective activities more, and let the children think more about others, they will be able to get rid of the self-centered misunderstanding and lead a healthy life.
Xiaomei, a 10-year-old, is a big "accuser" in our class. One of the characteristics of Xiaomei's "complaint" is that she never cares about the occasion. She often comes out with two words in class, every time it's a small thing
once in class, I asked a question, and many students raised their hands high. Xiaomei is a studious student, but this problem is relatively simple. I have to take care of other students who usually speak very little, so I called Xiaoli. At this time, I clearly see Xiaomei's face suddenly dark down, hand "pa" sound hit on the table, and I clearly heard a curse dialect "treasure"
on another occasion, Xiaomei watched TV with her sister (uncle's child) from afar. They didn't agree on which channel to watch, so Xiaomei threw the remote control, got into the bed and said loudly to her sister, "go back, this is not your home!"
Xiaomei's performance is called "self-centered consciousness" in psychology, which is a kind of personality disorder. Such children tend to focus too much on their own needs and interests, and can not adopt different opinions
the formation of children's "self-centered consciousness" is often related to inappropriate family ecation methods. Now let's look back at Xiaomei's family. Xiaomei lived in a big family when she was a child. Her grandparents revolved around Xiaomei all day. Later my uncle got married and had children, so my grandparents were naturally distracted. Sometimes when it comes to her sister's kindness, Xiaomei is not happy. She feels left out in the cold, as if her family no longer likes her. Later, mom and dad changed their jobs. They were far away from home and seldom went home. Xiaomei lived with her grandparents. Grandparents love Xiaomei very much, no matter what Xiaomei wants, they will satisfy her. Last year, Xiaomei's mother died of illness, and her grandparents were even more distressed for Xiaomei. Everything went along with her. Xiaomei lost her temper and even ran away from home
from the above analysis, we believe that Xiaomei lives in a doting family, parents are obedient and obedient to their children, which makes their children develop a willful and self respecting character< It is an important ecational task to overcome the self-centered consciousness, which requires the cooperation of family and school and the adoption of scientific ecational methods. In my opinion, efforts can be made in the following aspects:
first, family members should unify their ideas and raise their awareness. Now the society is a society of cooperation and competition, and a person's strength is small. If you want to be invincible in the competition, you have to establish a good relationship with people, learn to communicate and learn to cooperate
in addition, sooner or later, children have to get in touch with society, integrate into society, and accept the challenges of setbacks. To realize that it is necessary to cultivate children's spirit of cooperation from childhood
secondly, family ecation should master the principles, and can't satisfy children's wishes endlessly. On the premise of providing necessary material conditions for children, we should learn to say "no" to children
thirdly, we should master the methods of family ecation. You can't be obedient to children, you can't command them. To create a democratic and relaxed family environment for children, family members should be their friends. For example, take turns in charge of the family with the children, so that the children can experience the hard work of their parents; There are delicious food to share with children, rather than let children eat alone; When a conflict between a child and his partner cannot be solved, parents should neither blame other children for their mistakes, nor simply and rudely blame their own children. They should guide their children to analyze the causes and find solutions with their children< First, teachers should be full of love for children. A self-centered child is a treasure in the family. If he feels that his classmates don't care about him at school and the teacher ignores him, his temper will not decrease, but will grow
secondly, teachers should use cold treatment when dealing with such children's problems. If a teacher is concerned about him at ordinary times, he will believe that he will deal with his affairs when he encounters problems. When he complains, the teacher can refuse to say: "the teacher will be very busy. I will help you later, OK?" After he calms down a little, you can analyze the reasons for him and explain the truth. I think he can accept it
thirdly, create an environment for children to cooperate and share. Design some activities to make children experience the importance of cooperation and the happiness of sharing
Fourth, teach children to care for and help others. In life, guide children to pay attention to others, empathize with others, and think from others' feelings. One is to tell students more stories about caring for others. Second, let children do more practical things to help others
in a word, if the family and school cooperate together, do not spoil the children, let the children participate in collective activities more, and let the children think more about others, they will be able to get rid of the self-centered misunderstanding and lead a healthy life.
6. The main manifestation of egocentrism is
it is not difficult to find that there are some people who have too strong egocentrism. They only hope to satisfy their own desires and ask everyone to do for themselves, but they ignore the needs of others. They are unwilling to make any sacrifice for others and do not care about the pain of others. They are selfish and benefit themselves at the expense of others. Ask all people to take him as the center, wish to let the earth revolve around his will, obey him. As long as they take care of them collectively and don't talk about collective discipline, they will feel aggrieved and can't stand it. But they are not willing to proceed from objective reality and cannot obey others and the collective. This kind of people strongly want others to respect him, but they don't know they have to respect others. In a word, these people are full of self, but there is no one else in their mind. What they believe in is that man is not for himself, and heaven will destroy the earth. The problem is that self-consciousness is too strong, leading to the extreme of self centeredness, or indivialism is serious
how to overcome self centeredness
the principle of reciprocity is emphasized in interpersonal communication. If you want others to be good to you, you should also pay accordingly. In order to satisfy one's self-esteem, maintain one's self-esteem and oppose others in communication, one can only isolate oneself from the outside world and be in a state of self isolation. For people with serious psychological barriers such as egocentrism, they should face up to the social reality, learn to be polite and give in when necessary. Learn to respect, care and help others, so that you can get the reward of others and experience the value and happiness of life. Strengthen self-cultivation, learn to control their own desires and words and deeds. Egocentrism is a kind of personality defect, which can lead to depression, anxiety and other psychological diseases.
it is not difficult to find that there are some people who have too strong egocentrism. They only hope to satisfy their own desires and ask everyone to do for themselves, but they ignore the needs of others. They are unwilling to make any sacrifice for others and do not care about the pain of others. They are selfish and benefit themselves at the expense of others. Ask all people to take him as the center, wish to let the earth revolve around his will, obey him. As long as they take care of them collectively and don't talk about collective discipline, they will feel aggrieved and can't stand it. But they are not willing to proceed from objective reality and cannot obey others and the collective. This kind of people strongly want others to respect him, but they don't know they have to respect others. In a word, these people are full of self, but there is no one else in their mind. What they believe in is that man is not for himself, and heaven will destroy the earth. The problem is that self-consciousness is too strong, leading to the extreme of self centeredness, or indivialism is serious
how to overcome self centeredness
the principle of reciprocity is emphasized in interpersonal communication. If you want others to be good to you, you should also pay accordingly. In order to satisfy one's self-esteem, maintain one's self-esteem and oppose others in communication, one can only isolate oneself from the outside world and be in a state of self isolation. For people with serious psychological barriers such as egocentrism, they should face up to the social reality, learn to be polite and give in when necessary. Learn to respect, care and help others, so that you can get the reward of others and experience the value and happiness of life. Strengthen self-cultivation, learn to control their own desires and words and deeds. Egocentrism is a kind of personality defect, which can lead to depression, anxiety and other psychological diseases.
7. [Chinese middle class survey]
[developing self]
[developmental psychology]
[psychological counseling and treatment for children and adolescents]
[psychological dictionary]
these are OK, you see...
[developing self]
[developmental psychology]
[psychological counseling and treatment for children and adolescents]
[psychological dictionary]
these are OK, you see...
8. "Teacher, Xiao Hong stepped on my foot!" In class, a loud and clear voice interrupted my speech. Xiaomei, a 10-year-old girl, is a big "accuser" in our class. One of the characteristics of Xiaomei's "complaint" is that she never cares about the occasion. She often comes out with two words in class, every time it's a small thing. Once in class, I asked a question, many students raised their hands. Xiaomei is a studious student, but this problem is relatively simple. I have to take care of other students who usually speak very little, so I called Xiaoli. At this time, I clearly see Xiaomei's face suddenly dark down, hand "pa" sound hit on the table, and I clearly heard a curse dialect "treasure"! Another time, Xiaomei watched TV with her sister (uncle's child). They didn't agree on which channel to watch, so Xiaomei threw the remote control, got into the bed and said loudly to her sister, "go back, this is not your home!" Xiaomei's performance is called "self-centered consciousness" in psychology, which is a kind of personality disorder. Such children tend to focus too much on their own needs and interests, and can not adopt different opinions. The formation of children's "self-centered consciousness" is often related to the inappropriate way of family ecation. Now let's look back at Xiaomei's family. Xiaomei lived in a big family when she was a child. Her grandparents revolved around Xiaomei all day. Later my uncle got married and had children, so my grandparents were naturally distracted. Sometimes when it comes to her sister's kindness, Xiaomei is not happy. She feels left out in the cold, as if her family no longer likes her. Later, mom and dad changed their jobs. They were far away from home and seldom went home. Xiaomei lived with her grandparents. Grandparents love Xiaomei very much, no matter what Xiaomei wants, they will satisfy her. Last year, Xiaomei's mother died of illness, and her grandparents were even more distressed for Xiaomei. Everything went along with her. Xiaomei lost her temper and even ran away from home. From the above analysis, we believe that Xiaomei lives in a doting family, parents are obedient to their children, so that children develop a willful, self respecting character. It is an important ecational task to overcome the self-centered consciousness, which requires the cooperation of family and school and the adoption of scientific ecational methods. I think we can make efforts from the following aspects: first, in the family, first of all, all members of the family should unify their ideas and raise their awareness. Now the society is a society of cooperation and competition, and a person's strength is small. If you want to be invincible in the competition, you have to establish a good relationship with people, learn to communicate and learn to cooperate. In addition, sooner or later, children have to contact society, integrate into society, and accept the challenge of setbacks. To realize that it is necessary to cultivate children's spirit of cooperation from childhood. Secondly, family ecation should grasp the principles, and can not meet the wishes of children endlessly. On the premise of providing necessary material conditions for children, we should learn to say "no" to children. Third, we should master the methods of family ecation. You can't be obedient to children, you can't command them. To create a democratic and relaxed family environment for children, family members should be their friends. For example, take turns in charge of the family with the children, so that the children can experience the hard work of their parents; There are delicious food to share with children, rather than let children eat alone; When a conflict between a child and his partner cannot be solved, parents should neither blame other children for their mistakes, nor simply and rudely blame their own children. They should guide their children to analyze the causes and find solutions with their children. 2、 In school, first of all, teachers should be full of love for children. A self-centered child is a treasure in the family. If he feels that his classmates don't care about him at school and the teacher ignores him, his temper will not decrease, but will grow. Secondly, when teachers deal with such children's problems, they should use the method of cold treatment. If a teacher is concerned about him at ordinary times, he will believe that he will deal with his affairs when he encounters problems. When he complains, the teacher can refuse to say: "the teacher will be very busy. I will help you later, OK?" After he calms down a little, you can analyze the reasons for him and explain the truth. I think he can accept it. Third, create an environment for children to cooperate and share. Design some activities to make children experience the importance of cooperation and the happiness of sharing. Fourth, teach children to love and help others. In life, guide children to pay attention to others, empathize with others, and think from others' feelings. One is to tell students more stories about caring for others. Second, let children do more practical things to help others.
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