How to decentralize psychological counseling
Publish: 2021-04-18 19:20:54
1. There are six methods of psychological counseling and emotion regulation
1. Cry - cry appropriately
a big cry when you are in agony can calm your mood. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, worry and pain. American psychologist Wilfred believes that tears can expel certain toxins proced by organisms in the process of stress response. From this point of view, it means chronic poisoning to hold back from crying when encountering things that should be crying
2. Shout -- shout back happily
when you are troubled by bad emotions, call back with pity. It's also a way to let out your depression by shouting quickly, strongly and freely
3. Exercise -- take vigorous exercise
when a person is in a low mood, he often doesn't like to move. The more he doesn't move, the more difficult it is to shift his attention. The lower his mood is, and it is easy to form a vicious circle. Therefore, we can change the bad mood through running, playing and other sports activities
4. Find someone to talk to
as the saying goes, "happiness, shared by friends, is greater happiness; If the pain is shared by friends, the pain can be alleviated. "Unpleasant things are hidden in the mind, which will increase the psychological burden. If you find someone to pour out your troubles, you will feel comfortable. You can also find psychological counselors for psychological counseling, so that they can help eliminate the trouble
5. Divert attention
to shift attention is to shift attention from the things that cause bad emotions to other things. You can do something that you are usually interested in and do some activities that you are interested in. Such as games, playing ball games, playing chess, listening to music, watching movies, reading newspapers, and so on, you can also travel and play in a beautiful environment. In this way, people can get rid of negative emotions and stimulate positive and happy emotional reactions
6. Correct cognitive bias
"people are troubled not because of the fact, but because of the understanding of the fact." It's human cognition that determines emotion. We should actively adjust our own views on things, correct the deviation in cognition, and look at problems from the bright side. Then we can weaken or eliminate bad emotions and turn the dark into the sunny.
1. Cry - cry appropriately
a big cry when you are in agony can calm your mood. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, worry and pain. American psychologist Wilfred believes that tears can expel certain toxins proced by organisms in the process of stress response. From this point of view, it means chronic poisoning to hold back from crying when encountering things that should be crying
2. Shout -- shout back happily
when you are troubled by bad emotions, call back with pity. It's also a way to let out your depression by shouting quickly, strongly and freely
3. Exercise -- take vigorous exercise
when a person is in a low mood, he often doesn't like to move. The more he doesn't move, the more difficult it is to shift his attention. The lower his mood is, and it is easy to form a vicious circle. Therefore, we can change the bad mood through running, playing and other sports activities
4. Find someone to talk to
as the saying goes, "happiness, shared by friends, is greater happiness; If the pain is shared by friends, the pain can be alleviated. "Unpleasant things are hidden in the mind, which will increase the psychological burden. If you find someone to pour out your troubles, you will feel comfortable. You can also find psychological counselors for psychological counseling, so that they can help eliminate the trouble
5. Divert attention
to shift attention is to shift attention from the things that cause bad emotions to other things. You can do something that you are usually interested in and do some activities that you are interested in. Such as games, playing ball games, playing chess, listening to music, watching movies, reading newspapers, and so on, you can also travel and play in a beautiful environment. In this way, people can get rid of negative emotions and stimulate positive and happy emotional reactions
6. Correct cognitive bias
"people are troubled not because of the fact, but because of the understanding of the fact." It's human cognition that determines emotion. We should actively adjust our own views on things, correct the deviation in cognition, and look at problems from the bright side. Then we can weaken or eliminate bad emotions and turn the dark into the sunny.
2. How to conct psychological counseling for people
first, the primary task of empathy is to experience the other party's thinking and emotion. Since we want to exercise empathy, the first thing is to focus on each other's emotions. For many good comforters, listening is the most important part
American psychologist d.w.carroll believes that language and facial expressions are often the true portrayal of inner emotions
people instinctively look for vent points when they are emotionally unstable. In many cases, their language and behavior represent their mood at this time, and this is the opportunity for comforters to find entry points
according to the other person's emotional state at this time, and based on the principle that everyone's life experience is different, in the process of listening, we should build a basic framework of the other person through the effective information we have obtained, find the other person's key points of expression, and then we can get the general emotional pain points and mental changes of the other person, so that empathy can be effectively carried out
in addition, you can also give appropriate suggestions near the end, which will effectively enhance the other party's trust in you<
Second, respect each other and rece self-expression
many people tend to have too long self-expression when comforting their friends. They like to analyze the problem from the standpoint of a bystander, ignoring the subjective feelings of the other side in the process
Dale Carnegie once wrote in the weakness of human nature: when we get along with people, we are not faced with absolutely rational animals, but with creatures full of emotional changes, full of prejudice, driven by conceit and vanity
therefore, being rational is not the embodiment of empathy, but will make the other party feel your indifference
Charles gidling, a management consultant of general motors, believes that if the problem is clearly expressed, half of it has been solved
it is very important to ensure the other party's desire for expression in the process of comfort, which not only reflects our respect for the other party, but also allows them to comb their emotions again in the process of self-expression. In many cases, the narrator's mood has calmed down a lot after the calm statement
when comforting a person, it's often better to express one's will and give time and voice to the other party< According to psychologist Arnold, "emotion is a kind of experience tendency which is beneficial to tend to perception and harmful to leave perception."
for many people, the tone of voice represents emotion, and emotion is often highly transitive. In many cases, the exchange of content in the process of communication is far less influential than the infection of emotion< According to psychology, emotion consists of three parts:
subjective experience
physiological arousal
external behavior
among them, external behavior is more likely to be valued by people, and in the process of listening and comforting, the comforter's external emotional performance is easy to affect each other
in fact, people with empathy tend to keep the same mood with each other, blind sadness and optimism will give each other psychological burden, and even lead to each other's self-confidence and anxiety, which often leads to the failure of comfort and causes very bad effects.
first, the primary task of empathy is to experience the other party's thinking and emotion. Since we want to exercise empathy, the first thing is to focus on each other's emotions. For many good comforters, listening is the most important part
American psychologist d.w.carroll believes that language and facial expressions are often the true portrayal of inner emotions
people instinctively look for vent points when they are emotionally unstable. In many cases, their language and behavior represent their mood at this time, and this is the opportunity for comforters to find entry points
according to the other person's emotional state at this time, and based on the principle that everyone's life experience is different, in the process of listening, we should build a basic framework of the other person through the effective information we have obtained, find the other person's key points of expression, and then we can get the general emotional pain points and mental changes of the other person, so that empathy can be effectively carried out
in addition, you can also give appropriate suggestions near the end, which will effectively enhance the other party's trust in you<
Second, respect each other and rece self-expression
many people tend to have too long self-expression when comforting their friends. They like to analyze the problem from the standpoint of a bystander, ignoring the subjective feelings of the other side in the process
Dale Carnegie once wrote in the weakness of human nature: when we get along with people, we are not faced with absolutely rational animals, but with creatures full of emotional changes, full of prejudice, driven by conceit and vanity
therefore, being rational is not the embodiment of empathy, but will make the other party feel your indifference
Charles gidling, a management consultant of general motors, believes that if the problem is clearly expressed, half of it has been solved
it is very important to ensure the other party's desire for expression in the process of comfort, which not only reflects our respect for the other party, but also allows them to comb their emotions again in the process of self-expression. In many cases, the narrator's mood has calmed down a lot after the calm statement
when comforting a person, it's often better to express one's will and give time and voice to the other party< According to psychologist Arnold, "emotion is a kind of experience tendency which is beneficial to tend to perception and harmful to leave perception."
for many people, the tone of voice represents emotion, and emotion is often highly transitive. In many cases, the exchange of content in the process of communication is far less influential than the infection of emotion< According to psychology, emotion consists of three parts:
subjective experience
physiological arousal
external behavior
among them, external behavior is more likely to be valued by people, and in the process of listening and comforting, the comforter's external emotional performance is easy to affect each other
in fact, people with empathy tend to keep the same mood with each other, blind sadness and optimism will give each other psychological burden, and even lead to each other's self-confidence and anxiety, which often leads to the failure of comfort and causes very bad effects.
3. 1. Cognitive counseling. The solution to the problem of mentality comes down to the reconstruction of people's cognition. It can be said that the direct causes of all kinds of bad
mentality are the thinking or cognitive style which is not scientific, irrational and lack of reasonable values guidance. Ideological and political work should ecate and guide people to establish and maintain a scientific and reasonable way of thinking and cognition on the basis of establishing a scientific world outlook,
epistemology and methodology, and always maintain the psychological balance and the moderation of behavior
2. Emotional counseling. Healthy emotion is the basis of people's normal social life and the dynamic factor of people's behavior, which helps to give full play to people's subjective initiative and creativity. Ideological and political work is to cultivate people's correct feelings of love and hatred, strong self-esteem and correct sense of honor, pursuit of truth and bright future, mature sense of obligation and responsibility
3. Positive guidance of public opinion. In the prevention, control and handling of emergencies, communication media has the functions of popularizing
knowledge, mobilizing the public, informing the truth and coordinating all parties, and can spread all kinds of
useful information in emergencies to the public.
mentality are the thinking or cognitive style which is not scientific, irrational and lack of reasonable values guidance. Ideological and political work should ecate and guide people to establish and maintain a scientific and reasonable way of thinking and cognition on the basis of establishing a scientific world outlook,
epistemology and methodology, and always maintain the psychological balance and the moderation of behavior
2. Emotional counseling. Healthy emotion is the basis of people's normal social life and the dynamic factor of people's behavior, which helps to give full play to people's subjective initiative and creativity. Ideological and political work is to cultivate people's correct feelings of love and hatred, strong self-esteem and correct sense of honor, pursuit of truth and bright future, mature sense of obligation and responsibility
3. Positive guidance of public opinion. In the prevention, control and handling of emergencies, communication media has the functions of popularizing
knowledge, mobilizing the public, informing the truth and coordinating all parties, and can spread all kinds of
useful information in emergencies to the public.
4. 1. Listening < br > "listening" is the most basic part of psychological counseling ability. All indivial information and data are collected through listening. How can we hear more, hear more fully, and hear the real state of the indivial. This real state, including the other party's "wrong cognition", "mode of thinking", "self-concept" and "Prejudice", is hidden behind the words and deeds of the parties. In terms of psychological counseling, it is called "truth". Psychological counseling workers should see the truth behind through the other party's behavior and opinions, and be able to present the truth to the parties for observation. Listening is the first of the grooming skills< Br > 2. Asking questions < br > "asking questions" is a tool to help psychological counseling people listen more directionally. From here on, psychological counseling in the process of interaction, is no longer passive in the form of receiving information, but can more directly capture information. Good questions are crucial to the process of psychological counseling. Being good at asking appropriate questions is an important ability of psychological counseling< Br > 3. After the guidance < br > reflects the truth, indivials usually have different performances. Some people will be very excited - ha, I know myself! Some people will be confused - how can I change? No matter excited or confused, we need to confirm a new starting point and direction. The original indivial life emotion is "yesterday, today and tomorrow" all the way smoothly. From this moment on, his life emotion changed and his life road began to turn. At the beginning of the beginning, the psychological counselor should help him to see where the road under his feet starts and to which side. This link is called guidance, which is an end behavior to harvest the results of psychological counseling. After the completion of the guidance, this period of psychological counseling is over< Br > the expert team of psychological consultation of the Dolphin Sea focuses on psychological consultation service with sincere attitude and professional technology to escort your mental health< Br > < br > when I saw the advertisement, I could get a free psychological assessment and try it out. I didn't expect that the teacher was kind and professional. First of all, I got to know my personal situation and signed a confidentiality agreement. It was very good. The effect was really good. The teacher guided me to explore my true thoughts and recognize myself, Then give opinions and suggestions < br >
5. 1. Look at the world with another eye. Not everyone in the world is very smooth, just depends on how to solve it. For example, when you are walking, you are hit by someone and someone apologizes to you. Sometimes you still feel very angry, but you don't think that the person who hit you is more difficult than you. Think about the sentence "happy is a day, unhappy is a day, Why not be happy every day
2. If you think that you are in a bad mood, you don't need to think about it. If you still think about it, let yourself be busy and have no time to think about it. Let yourself live every minute fully. When you wake up in the morning, don't fall in love with bed. When you wake up, get up, get busy, open the window, breathe the fresh air in the morning and relax, Imagine yourself as a happy little angel...
3. Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a comfortable posture to stand, sit or lie down
4. Move some big joints and muscles of the body. The speed should be even and slow. The movement does not need to have a certain format. Just feel the joints open and the muscles relax
5. Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and then exhale slowly. When exhaling, meditate "relax" in your heart
6. Focus on everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a candle or anything soft and beautiful, and observe its nuances carefully. Light some spices and absorb the fragrance
7. Close your eyes and try to imagine some quiet and beautiful scenery, such as blue sea, golden sand beach, white clouds, mountains and flowing water, etc
8. Do some favorite activities that have nothing to do with the current specific matters. For example, swimming, hot bath, shopping, listening to music, watching TV and so on
9. It's easy to live, but not to live. Don't worry, this society and you are almost a lot, but all happy life, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life, I believe it is wonderful.
2. If you think that you are in a bad mood, you don't need to think about it. If you still think about it, let yourself be busy and have no time to think about it. Let yourself live every minute fully. When you wake up in the morning, don't fall in love with bed. When you wake up, get up, get busy, open the window, breathe the fresh air in the morning and relax, Imagine yourself as a happy little angel...
3. Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a comfortable posture to stand, sit or lie down
4. Move some big joints and muscles of the body. The speed should be even and slow. The movement does not need to have a certain format. Just feel the joints open and the muscles relax
5. Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and then exhale slowly. When exhaling, meditate "relax" in your heart
6. Focus on everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a candle or anything soft and beautiful, and observe its nuances carefully. Light some spices and absorb the fragrance
7. Close your eyes and try to imagine some quiet and beautiful scenery, such as blue sea, golden sand beach, white clouds, mountains and flowing water, etc
8. Do some favorite activities that have nothing to do with the current specific matters. For example, swimming, hot bath, shopping, listening to music, watching TV and so on
9. It's easy to live, but not to live. Don't worry, this society and you are almost a lot, but all happy life, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life, I believe it is wonderful.
6. It doesn't matter what others say. The key is that you work hard and you will get results. Like those who study well, they also work hard. You don't have to listen to others. They deny you because they don't understand you. They may deliberately think that saying you are not good will stimulate you to work harder. Maybe they have their own ideas, But no matter what you say, you should not be depressed, you should urge yourself to work harder, because life depends on hard work to achieve their goals, whether it is study or work hard, there is no mistake, don't deny yourself.
7. Observe each other's psychological state and appearance, and rationally judge whether psychological counseling is really needed. First of all, you need him to be able to completely and unreservedly talk to you. You need to understand his heart and his character and habits.
8. There are six methods of psychological counseling and emotion regulation
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1. Cry - cry appropriately
a big cry when you are in agony can calm your mood. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, worry and pain. American psychologist Wilfred believes that tears can expel certain toxins proced by organisms in the process of stress response. From this point of view, it means chronic poisoning to hold back from crying when encountering things that should be crying<
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2. Shout -- shout back happily
when you are troubled by bad emotions, call back with pity. It's also a way to let out your depression by shouting quickly, strongly and freely<
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3. Move -- take vigorous exercise
when a person is in a low mood, he often doesn't like to move. The more he doesn't move, the more difficult it is to shift his attention. The lower his mood is, and it is easy to form a vicious circle. Therefore, we can change the bad mood through running, playing and other sports activities<
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4. Find someone to talk to
as the saying goes, "happiness, shared by friends, is greater happiness; If the pain is shared by friends, the pain can be alleviated. "Unpleasant things are hidden in the mind, which will increase the psychological burden. If you find someone to pour out your troubles, you will feel comfortable. You can also find psychological counselors for psychological counseling, so that they can help eliminate the trouble
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to shift attention is to shift attention from the things that cause bad emotions to other things. You can do something that you are usually interested in and do some activities that you are interested in. Such as games, playing ball games, playing chess, listening to music, watching movies, reading newspapers, and so on, you can also travel and play in a beautiful environment. In this way, people can get rid of negative emotions and stimulate positive and happy emotional reactions
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"people are troubled not because of the fact, but because of the understanding of the fact." It's human cognition that determines emotion. We should actively adjust our own views on things, correct the deviation in cognition, and look at problems from the bright side. Then we can weaken or eliminate bad emotions and turn the dark into the sunny.
01
1. Cry - cry appropriately
a big cry when you are in agony can calm your mood. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, worry and pain. American psychologist Wilfred believes that tears can expel certain toxins proced by organisms in the process of stress response. From this point of view, it means chronic poisoning to hold back from crying when encountering things that should be crying<
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2. Shout -- shout back happily
when you are troubled by bad emotions, call back with pity. It's also a way to let out your depression by shouting quickly, strongly and freely<
03
3. Move -- take vigorous exercise
when a person is in a low mood, he often doesn't like to move. The more he doesn't move, the more difficult it is to shift his attention. The lower his mood is, and it is easy to form a vicious circle. Therefore, we can change the bad mood through running, playing and other sports activities<
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4. Find someone to talk to
as the saying goes, "happiness, shared by friends, is greater happiness; If the pain is shared by friends, the pain can be alleviated. "Unpleasant things are hidden in the mind, which will increase the psychological burden. If you find someone to pour out your troubles, you will feel comfortable. You can also find psychological counselors for psychological counseling, so that they can help eliminate the trouble
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to shift attention is to shift attention from the things that cause bad emotions to other things. You can do something that you are usually interested in and do some activities that you are interested in. Such as games, playing ball games, playing chess, listening to music, watching movies, reading newspapers, and so on, you can also travel and play in a beautiful environment. In this way, people can get rid of negative emotions and stimulate positive and happy emotional reactions
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"people are troubled not because of the fact, but because of the understanding of the fact." It's human cognition that determines emotion. We should actively adjust our own views on things, correct the deviation in cognition, and look at problems from the bright side. Then we can weaken or eliminate bad emotions and turn the dark into the sunny.
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1. Suggestive method
choose the best time, consciously use language, action, memory, imagination and various objects in the surrounding environment to implement positive suggestive, which can eliminate negative emotions, slow down psychological tension, and keep psychology calm and happy. Such as reciting famous sayings, aftertaste of successful experience, carefully dress themselves and so on
The fixed environment will make people lose interest graally, and then cause some psychological problems. Appropriately changing the environment can stimulate people's self-confidence and enterprising spirit. If you travel far away, you can transfer your energy, place your emotions, and solve all kinds of problems caused by bad emotions This is a reasonable psychological reaction in the mechanism of psychological defense. The ancients said, "let it be." In the face of all kinds of negative life events, such as birth, aging, illness, natural and man-made disasters, you can treat them with an easy heart, so that you can rece many unnecessary pain and have a peaceful and happy spiritual world4. Relaxation method
choose elegant environment, comfortable posture, eliminate distractions, close your eyes and refresh your mind, try to relax the muscles of the whole body, and adopt a stable and slow deep breathing method, which has the effect of relieving mental tension, depression, anxiety, impatience and fatigue. When inhaling, slowly clench hands, slightly bend wrist, allergic rhinitis symptoms, after inhaling, slightly hold breath for a period of time, and then slowly exhale, the whole body muscles are relaxed. Determine the right frequency to breathe repeatedly
Humor is the "air conditioner" of psychological environment. When you are frustrated or in an awkward and tense situation, you can use humor to resolve the dilemma and maintain the balance of mind. Humor is the lubricant of interpersonal relationship, it can make heavy mood become open-minded, cheerful 6. Music method
when you have anxiety, depression, tension and other adverse psychological emotions, you might as well listen to music and do a psychological "massage". The beautiful melody can adjust your psychology and change your emotions, such as the harmony of Liang Zhu, the cheerfulness of Bu Bu Gao, and the tranquility of autumn whispers, which will relax your nervous and anxious emotions, Happy mood
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