How to help children decentralize

It is an effective way for children to control their emotions. Daniel Gorman, an American psychologist, said: only by timely identifying their emotions, knowing the causes of their emotions, and accurately expressing their emotions through verbal and non-verbal means, can we learn to be aware of others' emotions, so as to establish a good interpersonal relationship between people, which has an important relationship with the survival and development of human beings. Emotion is a person's attitude and experience to the external objective things, which has an impact on all aspects of a person's body and mind. The healthy growth of children, children's EQ training is inseparable from their own emotional management. A successful person is not without negative emotions, but he can well control his emotions, let his positive attitude to face all kinds of things in the growth. How to let children control their emotions<


effective ways for children to control their emotions



effective ways for children to control their emotions


1. Positive guidance



guide children to transform from negative emotions to positive emotions, and teach children to look at problems with an optimistic attitude. For example: when the bird in the cage flies away, the child is very sad. His mother tells him that the bird also wants to be his mother. He will be very happy when he flies out with his mother. In this way, the child is happy for the bird and no longer sad. Everything has two sides, parents must guide children to face the problem positively and optimistically, and strive for the good side. An optimistic child usually doesn't have any emotional problems


2. Catharsis


guide children to reasonably vent their emotions. Children's ability to deal with negative emotions is still very weak. If alts do not give guidance, negative emotions will accumulate in children's hearts and can not be vented, which will affect children's physical and mental health. Of course, we can not let children freely vent their emotions, we should grasp a degree, we should make scientific and positive guidance, teach children to vent their negative emotions in a correct way. Give children time and space to vent, listen attentively, give children care, understanding and guidance


3. Game transfer method


when children have negative emotions, we encourage children to play, do what they are interested in and divert their attention. In the game to improve children's cognitive level and ability to deal with problems, proce positive emotions, and eliminate the adverse effects of negative emotions< The famous behaviorist psychologist Skinner believes that alts' attention to children's behaviors and emotions will increase the frequency of these behaviors and emotions. Therefore, to avoid some negative emotions of children can rece the occurrence of it. For example: when children have negative emotions e to some unreasonable requirements can not meet, you can pretend not to see, ignore, because at this time the more you will, the more children will feel that this method is effective, become a means for them to achieve their goals in the future


5. Contact with darkness, terror, evil and other harmful factors as little as possible


in early childhood, they lack judgment ability and are easy to imitate, so they are easily affected by bad factors. Whether at home or at school, Qianqian likes to fight and kick with his peers and imitate Altman. Communicate with his grandmother, her grandmother said at home all day long like to watch cartoon Altman, fine research. I think if the boy's family could spend more time with him to do other things, it would not be like this


6. To be children's role models


first of all, parents are role models. How do we express our emotions is very important. If we carefully observe the children's angry or happy appearance, you will be surprised to find that the child's appearance and parents are very similar, and even the behavior will be very similar. In the process of interaction with children to understand themselves, aware of their emotional changes and the ability to control emotions. In this way, we will give our children a good example of how to deal with similar problems


we should let children know that "everyone has emotions" is not a disgrace and need to avoid. It's normal for everyone to have all kinds of emotions; There is no good or bad about emotions. It's just that some emotions make us feel comfortable while others make us feel worse. Positive emotions are indirect and bring various benefits to indivials in a long-term way. He can make indivials build up personal resources that provide their own long-term development, including physical resources, intellectual resources, interpersonal resources and physical resources. These not only contain the key elements needed by the internal growth of the indivial, but also provide the resources needed by the indivial socialization. The level of children's emotion regulation ability is an important factor that affects the healthy development of children